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The Guardian: Documenting Women’s Stories of Street Harassment-In Pictures

https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/gallery/2017/jul/22/documenting-womens-stories-of-street-harassment-in-pictures

Documenting Women’s Stories of street harassment-in pictures                                          July 22, 2017

 

12 Moms Share Gross Stories Of Getting Catcalled While With Their Kids

A couple of months ago I posted a photo art representation of the different types of women who have and are catcalled by predatory black males.  These are athletic, religious clad, pregnant, women with children, professional women to name a few.  It was the traditional argument that men were to protect women, but America has regressed in which the average American woman needs protection FROM certain males, i.e. the predatory vagrants.

There was a recent news article published in the Huffington Post regarding street harassment in which mothers share their stories of being street harassed while out in public with their children:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/12-moms-share-gross-stories-of-getting-catcalled-while-with-their-kids_us_59414a7ce4b003d5948c8270

06/15/2017 04:34 pm ET

12 Moms Share Gross Stories Of Getting Catcalled While With Their Kids

“Did you know your mother’s hot?”

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I was totally unaware being catcalled while with your children is so incredibly common.

I was once catcalled while wearing my son in a baby carrier. I guess the presumed presence of my body underneath the baby strapped to my torso was apparently good enough for the guy who shouted at me as I was on the way to daycare one day.

Another time, my harasser used my son as the middle man, directing his “You’ve got a beautiful Mommy, you know that?” to the stroller I pushed in front of me. “NO!” I thought but didn’t say because I tend to avoid the uncertainty of conflict in these situations. “You don’t get to use my son to catcall me!”

We’re entering summer, which for many women and non-binary people is when street harassment escalates. It’s always unpleasant, but it may be even more unpleasant and jarring when it happens in the company of your children.

I didn’t know this was a common experience until I started asking. Just as every woman I know has a story of some guy harassing her, so do many mothers had a story of being harassed while out with their children. Some of them are almost amusing in their sheer nerve, some are shudder-inducing, and they unanimously make you want to say, “Ugh.”

Below, 12 women speak out on what the experience is like.

1. “He suggested to the kids that mommy should give him her number.”

I had a guy follow my children and I into the parking lot of a grocery store telling me how beautiful I was and asking for my number. He suggested to the kids that mommy should give him her number. I considered backing up over him with my car. ― Jamie Lechner

2. “What a cutie! And the baby’s not too bad either!”

I was carrying my 9-month-old through the parking lot of a department store to my car and a man was staring at us for an uncomfortably long amount of time, enough to make me pick up my pace and avoid eye contact. Then he yelled, “What a cutie! And the baby’s not too bad either!” He thought he was so funny. Ugh. ― Brie Riley

3. “I want my daughters to know that they can speak up for themselves and that it is not OK with me for strangers to comment on my body.”

Summers are always the worst for catcalling but it gets even worse when my kids are in tow. Men feel they can comment on my tattoos whenever they feel like it and when it does happen, I ignore them or tell them to stop speaking to me. It’s important to do this in front of my daughters because I do not want them growing up feeling like they can be objectified.

I want my daughters to know that they can speak up for themselves and that it is not OK with me for strangers to comment on my body. Hopefully it rubs off on them. ― Jennifer Clark

4. “I have been catcalled at 7 months pregnant.”

If it counts, I have been catcalled at 7 months pregnant (and VERY visibly so, I was wearing a dress which proudly showed the bump!). I was most confused ― did the man saying “Hey sexy mama” and making crude gestures think I was going to haul my large pregnant self into his white van and have sex with him?! ― Ayesha Jeary

5. “I can be his daddy.”

A few years ago, I was walking with my 2-year-old son when a man walked up to us and leered, “I can be his daddy.” We ducked into a restaurant. Thankfully, he was too little to notice. I just ignored the man. Nowadays, we have an open dialogue about how we treat girls and women. ― Sara Heistand

6. “He was so confused as to why mommy went from cheerful to fearful in seconds.”

I was leaving a large retail store at the anchor end of a mall with my son. We were laughing and I was swinging my bags in one hand and holding his with the other while he skipped, as we crossed the lane and into the parking lot. It was dusk and I hear a man whistle and shout. I was so used to it that I automatically stiffened up and picked up my pace, without acknowledging it. I was practically dragging my son by the time the man caught up to us and started asking to “be friends” and saying how “handsome” my son is.

I moved away briskly and he picked up his own pace and asked if I “wanted company this weekend.” I was almost running now so he stopped and then proceeded to shout “Ugly, b*tch, high on yourself” at my back, followed by more name-calling and slurs. I covered my son’s ears and jumped in the car. He was so confused as to why mommy went from cheerful to fearful in seconds and the vibe of our fun, late afternoon had totally changed.

I waited for 10 minutes before getting back out of my SUV to get my son situated in his car seat; he was only 3 1/2 at the time. (There are more instances but that one stuck out in my memory most because it was the most frightened I ever was with my son present.) ― Kasandra Powell

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7. “And that, my fellow feminists, is how you sexualize a fetus.”

When I was pregnant with my first child, a random stranger told me that if the baby was a boy he’s be a lucky little sod sucking on those tits. And that, my fellow feminists, is how you sexualize a fetus. ― Nesta May

8. “I wear my daughter all around our hood and stay getting hit on.”

I wear my daughter all around our hood and get hit on. My husband thinks dudes don’t realize I have a baby in there and one guy actually told me that. But I don’t buy it. What the hell else would be in this OBVIOUS baby carrier? A bowling ball?

And pregnancy catcalls were also a thing but thinly veiled as “compliments” like “Oh you look good girl” and “Wish I was the daddy.” I walked to work until the end and got not shortage of street harassment. ― Helena Andrews-Dyer

9. “You just had to have it, didn’t you?”

I was pushing my twins in a stroller when they were about 18 months old when an older man leered at us and said “You just had to have it, didn’t you?” I had no idea what he was talking about and said “What?” He replied, “Oh the thing that gets you two babies born so close together,” and then winked at me.

They are boy/girl twins and don’t look much alike so he probably thought I had gotten pregnant again very soon after giving birth to the first. Either way, I was really grossed out and mumbled something about them being twins and got the hell out of there.  ― Kelly Wilson Bossley

10. “It just feels particularly unkind.”

I’ve gotten pregnant catcalled and every time I’m just like WHAT??! I give them a look or say something to the effect of “Are you fucking serious?” I mean, I guess it’s no more or less offensive than regular catcalling ― pregnant bodies are beautiful and it can look sexy I guess. It just feels particularly unkind. ― Melissa Petro

11. “Did you know your mother’s hot?”

The worst was once when we were waiting for the subway and some dude leered at me and then said to my kid, “Did you know your mother’s hot?”

I just ignored him because I’m always scared about escalating stuff. Later when my son asked me about it I just said, “We live in a really messed up culture that thinks women’s bodies are public property.” ― Anne Thériault

12. “I feel so uneasy when I’m catcalled while with my kids.”

I was once catcalled on my way to the pool with my two young daughters. The man was driving while I was walking. I ignored him and turned left onto a one-way street. He drove in reverse down the one-way street still catcalling to me and trying to get me to give him my number. My daughters were 2 and 4 at the time. This was in NYC. I was terrified!

Even for a NYC street, there was no one else around. I thought he was going to kidnap us. My daughters didn’t ask me anything and I didn’t tell them anything either. They don’t remember thankfully.

However, I feel so uneasy when I’m catcalled while with my kids. Almost like the only reason they’re catcalling me is because I have children. Almost like I’m an easy target or prey. Maybe I’m overthinking it but it feels like it’s my kids some of these men are after. ― Doris Villegasfor clarity.

Street Harassed Again–NW Washington, D.C.

One evening I was leaving work from the office building. I was headed eastbound on 16th and L streets in NW, Washington, D.C.  As it was evening time it was already dark outside.  Other people were bustling also leaving work or tending to other matters. As I was walking, a dark-skinned, 6 foot-plus older black male (say pushing 60 years old) walked towards me while I was still on the sidewalk. He appeared from photothe street as a pedestrian from out of no where on my left facing the opposite direction and with a loud, condescending voice yelled to my face Hallelujah!, while looking me up and down (mind you I am always in hijab, long skirts or loose trousers) with a dirty smirk.  The dark-skinned black male simultaneously did this odd bend at a 45 degree angle to ensure I knew he was referring to me.  I was tired and solely yelled “nigger.” He immediate stood upright and began to walk away. It was then I realized that a Caucasian male was walking behind me in the same direction. I am unsure whether the demented, dark-skinned black male stopped merely because I referred to him as to what he actually was or he was embarrassed that he was called that by another person of color IN THE PRESENCE of a white male.  I believe it was a combination of both.  It was disgusting that someone who appeared possibly old as a grandfather would attempt to disrupt a cover Sunni Muslim leaving work and minding her own business.

Today’s black male is the problem. Black “Christians” today are the problem, they are a public nuisance and a public health menace.

REPOST-Photo Chart: Black “Christian” male street harassers: Spring 2017

WARNING:

In the United States, Spring 2017 is o the horizon and is estimated to start March 20, 2017.  Unfortunately, women will witness and be the victims of more sexual-street harassment at the hands of low-level Black “Christian” males in the State of Maryland and Washington, D.C. Below is a picture demonstration of what decent women have to mentally and physically prepare for (self-defense, mace, calling the police, walking quickly or with a friend) in order to stave off and secure their own safety. Today’s  black “Christian” males will be on the prowl to street harass, assault, accost, disrespect you and although it is against the law, no one cares what happens to  covered Sunni Muslim Black women–especially as demonic, lust-hound black males are the root of the problem.

Low-level, illiterate, uneducated, dark-skinned, hanging on the street, loose tongue, wandering eyed licentious black males are on the prowl more than ever before be vigilant and for your own safety avoid them as much as possible.  They are similar to the dirty old white male hillbillies in the same areas of Maryland.

 

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A Tale of Two Black Male “Christian” Accosters in the State of Maryland

A young covered Sunni Muslim Black American woman was working as a cashier at the Weiss supermarket located at 9250 Washington Blvd N, Laurel, MD 20723.  On this day she was working at the customer service counter and was completing her transaction.  The customer was a black male “Christian” who kept demanding that she give him the change in his hand.  At the time the Muslim cashier was still retrieving the money from the register.  She had an eerie feeling regarding the black male and informed him that she was giving him his change but placing it on the counter.  He made the same demands and she informed him that she could not touch his hand (she already knew he was trying to get photo“more” than just change as supposed to any regular male or female customer).  She then placed the change on the counter, but close to his hand. He reached out and grabbed and tried to hold her hand. The Muslim cashier snatched her hand back while he stated, “I touched your hand, what are you going to do about it?”  She left her station to retrieve a manager and when they returned the black male “Christian” already left the store.

 I had a similar experience with a cashier at a restaurant. However, I didn’t assume that a black male who appeared to be 18 years old or less would try such a tactic with a grown woman—but this dark-skinned black male did so. I tried the same thing this sister did, to retrieve my hand quickly and was disgusted at his actions.  This black male simply laughed as if he accomplished something, well he did, accosting a covered Sunni Muslim woman.  To have a similar story as this sister, at a different place of business different years demonstrates the immoral and lustful nature of today’s black males. This was sexual harassment plain and simple, yet black male privilege and “Christian” privilege, no matter how wrong, offensive and illegal reigns supreme when the target and victim are Sunni Muslim Black American women.

Buffalo News Article (March 25, 2017): Decker Street man accused of harassing woman in damaging tirade

Decker Street man accused of harassing woman in damaging tirade

<!–By –>By Matt Gryta Published

http://buffalonews.com/2017/03/25/decker-street-man-accused-harassing-woman-damaging-tirade/

A Decker Street man is accused of harassing a woman and hurling bricks at her car Saturday morning.

Mark E. McCarthy, 33, was charged with felony third-degree criminal mischief and second-degree harassment. He was arrested by Buffalo police at Delaware Avenue and Nottingham Terrace about 10 a.m.

Police said the suspect forced his way into the victim’s car at a gas station at Delaware and Amherst Street, then ordered her to drive to her residence on Delaware. After they arrived, police said, the woman quickly got into her house. In response, the suspect hurled bricks at both front and rear windshields of the car, as well as the trunk, police added.

Online Article: Street Harassment Is a Public Health Problem: March 20, 2017

https://www.citylab.com/crime/2017/03/street-harassment-is-a-public-health-problem-the-case-of-mexico-city/520185/Street Harassment Is a Public Health Problem

Women who have been harassed may feel less trust in their community, with potential long-term impacts on mental health and well-being.

Lauren Ferreira Cardoso

March 20, 2017

“I actually don’t remember when I was first harassed on the street, but I do remember when I first experienced it as an abusive act: I was an adolescent traveling with my mom in a crowded underground wagon, where men could easily touch women without anyone noticing and with little possibility to prevent it.

This was the experience of Lucía Vázquez, a researcher in Mexico City, Mexico. Unfortunately, her story is not unique.

According to a multi-country poll by YouGov, Mexico City ranks first among 16 international cities surveyed for physical and verbal harassment on public transportation. Street harassment, a form of gender-based violence against women, can include any act or comment perpetrated in a public space that is unwanted and threatening, and is motivated by a person’s perceived sex or gender.

Violence against women in public spaces is not exclusive to Mexico City, of course. Experiences of street harassment—from being whistled at to being touched without consent—are reported each day on crowd-sourced websites like Hollaback and Safecity in dozens of other locations from New York and New Delhi, to Lawrence, Kansas and Lubbock, Texas.

There is still much to be learned about how harassment and feeling unsafe in public spaces affects the well-being of women and girls—a topic I focus on in my doctoral research at the University of Pennsylvania’s School of Social Policy and Practice—but the global scale of these experiences is concerning. Studies documenting the prevalence of street harassment in more than 35 countries show it could have widespread health effects across the globe.

Street harassment in Mexico City

One of the latest studies on this issue aimed to understand the extent of street harassment and its impacts on women, girls and communities in Mexico City. All of the women in this study had previously screened positive for intimate partner violence, a prerequisite for inclusion in the parent study.

Paola Abril Campos, a doctoral student at the Harvard’s T.H. Chan School of Public Health, is a native of Mexico City. She said in an interview for this article:

“Growing up, I learned to fake a phone call to my parents to feel safer and avoid harassment. I learned to wear not the clothes I wanted, but the clothes that made me feel ‘safe.’ I learned to take quick detours during my daily commute. And I learned to put up with the impotence I felt when harassed.”

Her experiences motivated her to conduct a study on street harassment that was published in January in Salud Pública de México, a journal published by Mexico’s National Institute of Public Health.

In this study, Campos and colleagues surveyed 952 women who were seeking health care in Mexico City’s community health clinics. More than 60 percent of the women, 62.8 percent, reported experiencing at least one form of street harassment in the past month alone. For one in four women, 26.8 percent, the abuse was physical.

The study found that the harassment, or fear of harassment, had negative impacts on the daily routines of these women. Nearly 70 percent reported some type of disruptions in their mobility, including missing, being late to or having to change jobs or schools. And yet, Campos said, “The costs and consequences of street harassment to women’s lives have remained invisible.”

The study also found that street harassment may diminish women’s sense of connectedness and trust in their community. Social isolation from one’s community can have long-term implications for well-being and can lead to chronic disease and poor mental health. Therefore, street harassment may contribute to these other public health concerns.

For the women in this study who were also victims of intimate partner violence, violence is a threat in both public and private. Jhumka Gupta, a global and community health professor at George Mason University and senior author of the study, stated: “Comprehensive interventions are needed to ensure women and girls’ safety both in public settings and in private spaces.”

Emerging solutions

There is some political will to address the issue in Mexico City. In conjunction with local authorities, UN Women has launched the program “Safe Cities and Safe Public Spaces for Women and Girls,” which is promoting women’s safety through, among other mechanisms, providing women-only buses throughout the city.

The city’s mayor, Miguel Ángel Mancera Espinosa, is also supporting an initiative that distributes whistles to women that they can use when someone harasses them. The idea is to “break the silence” and bring attention to harassers.

Street harassment is a common problem in the United States too. A recent nationally representative survey found that 65 percent of U.S. women have faced street harassment at some point in their lifetimes. These numbers may be rising.

The Southern Poverty Law Center reports that there has been a post-election uptick of harassment and intimidation of many marginalized groups, including women. However, in February a new bill aimed at preventing street harassment in Washington, D.C. was introduced to its city council. It seeks to “eradicate street harassment in the District of Columbia through education, awareness, data collection and culture change.” The bill is broad and inclusive in its definition of street harassment and comprehensive in its approach. Will other cities follow its lead?

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.