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…At an Airport Earlier This Year

…at a small Michigan airport, a Black “Christian” male Attempted to Knock Me Down

Earlier this year I was returning from the northern midwest back to Maryland. I was to depart from the same local airport I had arrived in a week earlier.

As I entered the automatic external sliding doors eyeing a kiosk to print my e-ticket, there a small unrelated line about two feet away. This line had a black male and what appeared to be a South Asian or Arab standing behind him.

As I proceeded to conduct my transaction via the kiosk the dark skinned black male “Christian” made a point to turn fully around and began speaking to me randomly about his flight is delayed how they are waiting for their matters to be straightened out.

As it was between 6 and 7 a.m., that this odd STRANGER made it an unnecessary point to attempt to engage in an unwanted, unprovoked and unusual communication, especially when he was further away from the kiosk than the guy standing behind him. After I looked up briefly, and I immediately noticed the gentleman behind me said nothing but gave me an emphatic look, I continued to focus on the kiosk screen and followed its instructions. I never responded to the black male and just walked away.

As I arrived to my gate and was awaiting boarding announcements, the same black male out of no where intentionally and harshly “bumps” into my right shoulder with his left and knocks half my body forward. Most of the other airline patrons looked shocked as was. But when I saw it was that same Black ‘Christian’ male I realized that is who most of them are and apparently see women of color, especially Sunni Muslims as property and objects to be disrespected and harmed for their whimsical amusement. This was apparently his irrational revenge for me not engaging in unwanted communications with a Black male stranger.

I can only rationally arrive at one conclusion for the majority of my experiences when I attempt to go about my daily business and routine with the hopes that I can have one day without being sexual harassed and taunted by Black male “Christians” that they have inherent hedonistic and demonic proclivities.

I used to be sympathetic when whites called Black males monkeys–because it is racist in some ways; especially when the reference is about appearances or lineages related to Africa. But I see the validity of this reference with regards to Black “Christian” males not in physical appearance but based on observation: the majority of them today display illogical possessive, simian behavior towards total strangers ie., act like ‘apes in heat,’ yet expect sympathy from the public including women of color, innocent Muslim women and society in general, who they continue to put in unprovoked danger on a daily basis.

I am truly appalled that wherever I am in America, there is one constant: that Black male “Christians” refuse to leave me alone. I am a Sunni Muslim and have no interest in you bothering me.

One thing I do notice is Black ‘Christian’ males go out of their way to violate a Muslim woman’s boundaries and rights. What normal and decent people do, that is mind their own business, conduct their own affairs–Black males feel the need to hinder when it is a Muslim Black woman. One example is when I go to get an oil change at the Valvoline in Glen Burnie, Maryland (Anne Arundel County) and am waited on by a Black male worker and he stares and even moves his head to attempt uninterrupted glances when I look away to be modest. Black males ALWAYS do this to me and fellow Muslims but would not dare engage in this inappropriate behavior if I was a white nun or Amish.

For the most part white men attempt to ensure that they don’t even accidentally trespass in my personal boundaries while Black ‘Christian’ males go OUT OF THEIR way to violate them. From this one can only deduce that Black males believe Muslim Black woman have no rights and are not to be treated as humans–yet they are the same ones yelling about abuse and police brutality when they actually did or are reasonably suspected of doing something wrong or illegal.
More tales from the harassment crypt are on their way, especially in my attempts to avoid Black male “Christians” harassing and attempting to assault me STILL in Howard County, Maryland.
*A Sunni Muslim Black American Woman

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Black Man Kills Black Woman Because She Rejected His Advances October 2014

Like I said black males are sinister and believe Black woman’s primary purpose on earth is to satisfy their inordinate sexual needs. A Black woman already in a relationship which she disclosed. Quite frankly it is no one’s business whether this or any other woman is in a relationship if she is not interested she’s not interested. Back off. Here’s the article:
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http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5945518
Woman Shot, Killed After Saying No To A Man’s Advances, Detroit Police Say
Kate Abbey-Lambertz The Huffington Post 10/07/14 02:06 PM ET
Police say a man shot and killed a woman after she rejected his advances at an event in Detroit over the weekend. Five people were also injured during the incident.

Mary Spears, 27, was at the American Legion Joe Louis Post No. 375 on the east side of Detroit when the 38-year-old suspect allegedly approached her and began talking to her, according to WDIV.

When the suspect asked for her number, Spears, whose fiancé was also at the event, told him she was already involved with someone, WJBK reports. The suspect, however, continued harassing her, family members told the station.

Police said security took the man out of the club through the back door and escorted him to the front. After a fight broke out, the suspect allegedly took out a handgun and began shooting, killing Spears around 2 a.m. Sunday.

Some on social media were horrified by the news.

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This is an op-ed about her death:
Who cries when black women die?

I’m not asking that as some type of rhetorical, poetic question, meant to move you toward ferocious finger snaps. I want to know. Who cries when black women die?

Further, who cries when black women are killed?

Mary Spears was killed. The man who killed her did so because she refused to give him her phone number. She told him “I have a man I can’t talk to you,” and yet he persisted. Rather than respect her wishes to be left alone, he shot her.

Who cries when black women die from street harassment? 

I really do need an answer. Because Mary Spears’s right to move about freely in the world was denied to her, her life taken from her, and there are no marches. No one has broken out the bullhorns or their comfortable sneakers. There are no widespread calls to protect the autonomy of black women and their bodies. The community leaders haven’t deemed this unacceptable and a fate no one should ever face simply because they reject a man’s advances.

No, when black women die from that toxic mix of violent misogyny, male entitlement, and hypermasculine posturing, there is no movement to be born. There are condolences to be offered and “unfortunate”s to be uttered, but no tears to be cried. There is no anger that propels action.

You’ve read this piece before. You’ve read it a dozen times over. I’ve written it before. I could have written it a dozen times over. It’s the piece where someone complains about how little outrage there is surrounding something which deeply affects them, and then the reader is left to wonder, “Well, if it means that much to you, what are YOU doing about it?” You may have written that piece before. And we keep writing them because I don’t think any of us are quite sure what to do.

Where black women are concerned, we aren’t just talking about mounting the evils of misogyny, or even racism. We compete with the sacrifices black women make for their community.

I understand that there’s an impulse to not make black men the faces of street harassment, given all of the ideas that already exist around black male hypersexuality, as well as the disproportionate amount of police violence that black men face as the result of the constant criminalization of behaviors associated with black men. But black women have been allowed to suffer too much for the protection of black men. They have paid with their lives.

And here I am, writing another blog post wondering why no one seems to care.

Street harassment is vile. It makes women feel unsafe in public. But when black women die because we have failed to teach boys and men to keep their thoughts and hands to themselves, that they are not entitled to the sexual attention of any and every woman, or that their attempts at proving their masculinity through verbal and physical assaults on women are failures, the concern fades before it has a chance to actually surface. Black women are expected to keep sacrificing.

Who cries when black women die? Nobody. No damn body.

Mychal Denzel Smith is a Knobler Fellow at The Nation Institute. 

Stalked and Harassed for Months by a Black Man: Baltimore City, Maryland

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Street and/or Sexual Harassment is NOT OKAY

Street and/or Sexual Harassment is NOT OKAY

a time when I worked and lived in Baltimore City I would take what they claimed to be the subway to work as I didn’t have a car at the time.

During the Fall and winter season it was daylight savings time. For at least two months I was all of a sudden being harassed by a burly black male who was taller than me. He would walk with 5 of his blue collar co-workers and cut through the apartment complex where I lived. They would laugh as they were being entertained or pretend like they did not witness the street harassment. Apparently being a covered Sunni Muslim Black woman is nothing but a big joke to Black “Christian” males.

It was generally snide or inappropriate remarks or comments coupled with repulsive laughter. Because it was daylight savings time I had difficulty identifying the culprit and his gang. The one thing I noticed was that no matter what time i left my apartment they would still appear and we crossed paths. The other oddity I noticed is that whenever I ended up walking with residents of other buildings in the complex he wouldn’t even look at me–obviously he didn’t want any witnesses for what he was planning.

After I noticed the pattern I began to document the date and times of the street harassment and the different times each early morning I changed my departure to avoid them but they were still there taunting and mocking my very existence as a not just a woman of color but a G-d fearing one.

Apparently the black thug could no longer take my attempts to ignore his predatory and harassing behavior one morning. Daylight savings time was ending so it was getting brighter earlier. As I was rushing to work one day I was fastening the buttons to my winter coat while walking on the sidewalk within the apartment complex. All of a sudden, the burly large black male was less than a foot in front of me. I was completely startled and with a smirk he mockingly stated “let me help you with that” and reached for the buttons on the front of my coat. It was by G-d’s grace that I had quick reflexes and jumped back before he could actually touch me or my clothing. I began to yell at this predatory “Christian” black male and stated “stop bothering me” and” leave me alone!” The criminal poignantly stated “one of these days I’m going to get you.” Upset, I hurriedly rushed to the transit station and told the empoyee what happened and he said he was calling the police.

I waited for the police to arrive and explained to him what happened. The police asked me if I could I identify him and I told him yes an that I got a good look at his work uniform which bore a company logo. The police officer escorted me to the company showroom floor and we asked to speak to a supervisor or manager. A white male appeared and the officer asked for workers who just arrived to work and explained the incident After the manager brought some out i identified the assaulter and some of his companions. The police officer filled out a report and took the brute’s identifying information. The State’s Attorney filed Harassment and Stalking charges against him. Please see the next post for Part II.