Another Black Woman’s Story: Black Men Keep Sexually/Street Harassing Her

Disgusting Black Men Never Stop…They carry the mark of Satan–troublemaking, debauchery and sinister lust. Here is her story:

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“My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Harassment and Discrimination
MARCH 11, 2014 | ** GUEST AUTHOR ** |

One day, I was standing outside of a store waiting for my dad to meet me. While I was waiting, I made a phone call to my mom. While I was on the phone, I was approached my a man who was obviously more than twice my age who tried to engage me in a separate conversation. “Hey baby. I like them pants. What you up to tonight?” While there are so many ways in which I could have responded to him, I settled for a simple “I can’t talk right now, I’m on the phone” which he followed up with “Damn, girl I’m just trying to get to know you”. I suppressed a severe eye-roll and politely asked him to please leave me alone. When I didn’t respond to his advances, he proceeded to berate me with so many variations of “prude bitch”, my head began to spin.

I can’t walk down the street, pump gas into my car, shop in a grocery store, even sit in church without a man feeling entitled to harass me. They tell me to smile, they follow me around, they stare and whistle and honk their horns at my backside. They reach out and touch me without my permission.  Some even take pictures!

When I don’t acknowledge the man cat calling me from across the street, I’m a Stuck Up Bitch. All because I inform a man that my name is not “baby“, “sweetie“, or “ma“. I’m told “If I don’t want attention, I shouldn’t dress so attractively.” Some would say I shouldn’t be offended. This isn’t harassment, this is a compliment. If my boss, a strange man on the street, a security guard or store clerk wants to talk to me or stare at me or compliment me or follow me around, it’s just because they think I’m attractive. I should be honored. Shouldn’t I?

Let me go on record and say no, I shouldn’t be honored. This type of behavior isn’t a compliment, it’s harassment. I’m not obligated to smile just because a man wants me to. I don’t exist for the visual pleasure of men. I’d don’t have to speak to satisfy a man’s physical attraction to me or perceived “courage” in approaching me. And I’m not a bitch just because I don’t want to talk to a man I have no interest in.

Society has not changes much since the days in which Nathaniel Hawthorne penned “The Scarlet Letter“. Women are still judged harshly for our actions (and for our inaction). Only instead of having embroidered letters slapped upon our breast, we are instead being stamped with #hashtags in social media and with harsh labels from society and our peers.

Women in bad romantic relationships are labeled #SideLineChicks, #Sluts, #Hoes, etc. As if being in their predicament represents a character flaw on their part, not on the man who created the love triangle. A women who is assertive, aggressive, and is confident is labeled a #Bitch or #Bossy. A woman who enjoys sex and explores her sexuality is called a #Whore. When I don’t want to give my phone number to a stranger, I’m #StuckUp. A man being the boss, having sex as much sex as he wants, or wanting to be left alone is labeled a man.

What gives men the perceived right to label, ridicule, harass and demean women they don’t even know? Why is the biological fact that they are “men” enough for them to communicate with and about women in any kind of way? People say “that’s just how boys act” … “oh, he’s just being a man”. To me that’s barely an excuse. How can a man born of a woman be naturally inclined to treat women with disrespect? Sometimes, people assume I’m just a jaded woman. They tell me “you must not like men, that’s all” or they ask me if a man hurt me in my past. Why does there have to be something wrong with me just because I insist on being respected?

I tell people I’m a feminist and they look at me with confusion. What is a feminist, anyway? Many people (male and female) hear the word and they think of a radical bra-burning, man hating, ugly, lesbian who is under the delusion that they’re lives and treatment need to be equal.

That’s both offensive and limiting. Women are diverse. Our wants are diverse yet men assume we are all the same and treat us as such. A feminist is someone who believes in the social equality of all people regardless of gender. A feminist is someone who believes in respect for another human being regardless of gender. A feminist believes that being a man does not make you more powerful or more entitled to me, a woman. But I’m finding out now that people who hold this belief are few and far between.

Sexism is another unbelievable term. Even today, men are startled by the idea that women are oppressed anywhere outside of the Middle East. Why is it so unbelievable that in 2014 there is still harassment and discrimination against women? Why is my word and experience not enough to prove that the tragedy still exists?

It saddens me to admit that most of this discrimination and harassment comes from black men, my so called “brothers”.  How am I supposed to be responsible for lifting your spirits in a world that beats down upon you while you, the black man, is constantly berating me? Not only must I bear your suffering, but I must suffer under you. That’s not to say men of other races are excluded from harassment epidemic. When white men approach me the first thing they comment on are my lips, my hair, my hips, my breast and how they “always wanted a black women” as if all women of color are interchangeable and to have one is to have us all. As if having me at all is even an option, just because you want me. As if!

I confess to feeling a little depressed and powerless in these scenarios because in reality, I am somewhat powerless. Sometimes I feel like the only beings with the power to make any real change in the way women are treated and reacted to are the main ones responsible for the oppression. Women’s issues are everyone’s issues. And yet I feel constantly alone and criticized for crying wolf and calling men out on their privilege and outrageous behavior.

To the men out there, in case you still need convincing of your innate privilege given to you simply by being male (especially if you happen to be a white upper middle class male over 5’7″), allow me to break it down:

No reporter ever asks men how they plan to balance both their family and their career. (That’s a woman’s concern, right?)
Should you decide to run for office, political commentators will have nothing to say about what you wear to the podium.
Your value and intelligence are not directly linked to your sexual expression or lack thereof.
What goes on in your reproductive system is not under government regulation.
You can expect to see a group of men on a reality TV show who are not fighting. (“Bad Boys Club” just wouldn’t sell)
You can walk down the street at night (or anytime of day, really) and not be concerned for your sexual safety. (Do they make anti-rape, boxers yet?)
You can go nearly anywhere in the world and be allowed to wear what you want, go where you want, ride a bike, vote, go to school, work, pretty much do anything you want because you have a penis.
You aren’t criticized or called some variation of whore for appearing in public in minimal clothes (go shirtless if you want to, guys. Show off those abs!)
You can feel the freedom and right and even responsibility to comment on this article and tell me that my life experience and my opinions written here are wrong.
I have no ending for this piece. Just a plea for people to treat me (and others) with the respect I deserve not because I’m cute, or because I yelled at you and demanded that you speak to me with respect. But because I’m a human being. Not an object of your affection existing for your protection and attention That’s all.

Disrespectful Black Man at Office Depot-Glen Burnie, Maryland

On an early weekday morning, I decided to get some errands done which included handling some business at the Office Depot. Since I was already in the area I went to the Office Depot in Glen Burnie, Maryland off Ritchie Highway/Route 2 near the MVA.

I was waiting at the customer service station counter. I was covered as usual, I had on pants a long tunic shirt which hit my hips and my hijab. I left my ankle-length sweater in my car, but nonetheless was covered. As I was waiting for the customer service cashier to conduct my transaction for payment. A much older, dark-skinned black man who appeared to be in his late 50s early 60s entered with a white guy about the same age and appeared to be a construction worker.

I focused my gaze on the customer service cashier in front of me when I felt someone staring as I looked to my right, the black man was making it obvious that he was staring at my posterior. I turned back around visibly irritated when I heard the white man he was with begin to chuckle. When I turned back around the black male, although a couple of feet away, was holding on to the counter with one hand and bending down trying to look under my tunic. The cashier a young white lady and myself just rolled our eyes and attempted to ignore both of them. I was lucky he didn’t grab me, because that was likely his next course of action.

To today’s black “Christian” men, you are the worst human beings I have consistently encountered in my life. You treat women of color worse than the Ku Klux Klan, racist professors or white policemen. You are a plague to your community and you continue the stereotype of “buckdancing” for Mr. Charlie. You will do anything to seek the approval of white men. Black men, by your actions you have declared yourself an enemy to decent women. You destroyed the Black Christian community and now you attempt to infiltrate the Sunni Muslim community which have many practicing Sunni Muslim Black American women. May G-d bring down His wrath upon you and punish you justly for your sins and offenses. I know you do not believe in G-d because if you did you would not disrespect His Creation, yes that includes women of color, especially G-d-fearing ones.

An Open letter to Black (Christian) Men

An open letter to Black Men:

Please leave me alone. I am a covered practicing Sunni Muslim in Maryland, I wish that you do not attempt to interact with me, drop lines, insult or harass me. The majority of you are Black and Christian or atheist. Why would you think a religious Muslim woman would be interested in you or complimented by your foul behavior? I find you nasty and disgusting. When I am at the Subway sandwich shop or Royal Farms and next to pay for my merchandise–you hover and linger at the register when your transaction is complete to make an excuse to stare to get my attention, make a pretext to touch me (“bump”) into me. Black Christian males you reinforce civilized society’s belief you are a threat. Well, because you constantly threaten my safety, your consistent pestering, sexual street harassment behavior have given countless women of color post-traumatic stress syndrome. While you think you have ‘game’ we look at you like the predatory phallic beasts you are–the reality is that you are a constant threat. The only person you impress is yourself with self-delusion (and unintelligible reinforcement by your groupthink/gang/homeboys who do not understand how the rest of the world, including Sunni Muslim Black American women see you) of sexual prowness which demonstrates you operate on a base/animalistic level. Just because your black Christian mother coddled you and reinforced your belief that whites are the sole source of your woes does not give you a pass to harass innocent women who make it obvious they have no desire to be harassed by you by:
1. Not responding to you;
2. Turning away;
3. Cursing you out;
4. Walking away from you.

You set yourself up for rejection by attempting to go after good, decent, educated religious women you have no chance with. Then you get upset with the target of your savage desires. You are not a Muslim (Ive seen the inner city converts-majority of you are just the same as–thugs with elf look claiming to follow Sunnah). If a Muslim was to bend the rules for a non-Muslim man it surely WOULD NOT BE FOR A BLACK ONE.

It is not just solely preference and disgust with your public behavior, statistically and objectively you are a poor choice for a decent woman who wants a beneficial future for a nuclear family and here’s why:
1. While many ethnic American men may not be religious many do respect religion. Black men do not, you do not respect structure, organization, or personal responsibility. Yet, you think you have the right yo access Sunni Muslim Black women because of their value. Our value is strengthened because our religion cultivated us and we know you don’t value the thing  (our beliefs) which helped to make us who we are so surely you will only harm, abuse or destroy us (demonstrated simply by your hostile attitude and the fact you try to “holla” at a covered Sunni Muslim; you wouldn’t dare approach a white nun–period). You are sociopathic bullies who try to intimidate respect out if people, thus do not know what respect is. Yes, many of us are afraid of you. When we see you we see harm; while you are laughing while nothing is funny we are thinking of calling law enforcement. You act like thugs but get upset when decent people stay away from you out of fear and claim racism. Well, I am a decent Sunni Muslim black woman I do the same-I know your modis operendi.
2. Statistically black men rape and sexually assault both black and white women–often. You have no self-control or self-restraint–today’s Black Christian male possess a prominent bestial nature. Thus, you are more proned to harm women.
3. You are ill-mannered and disrespectful in the name of rebelling against ‘the system’ but you only achieve disrespecting Sunni Muslim black and other decent women.
4. You are mysogynistic and view women as property:
a. No you cannot ‘get a smile.’ I owe you nothing. You are a stranger who is invading my space. I do not engage in unnecessary interactions with men generally, especially black ones.
b. No you cannot “holla” at me for “a second.” I will not allow a strange sexual predator to raise his voice at me or “drop lines” to contribute to your insatiable ego. I am not a “shortay” and stop venturing into our suburbs to prey on us. In other words no you cannot “talk” to me. Simply disgusting. You are sloppy, nasty, uneducated and do nothing more than sniff around. You do not belong among humans.
c. It is not flattering to keep clearing your throat, making hacking/hog spitting noises to get my attention. Clearly the only way you are capable of communicating with an actual human being is through these uncouthe, bestial sounds that you presume is some type of mating ritual. Reality check: you are the only one participating stay away from me.
5. 1:4 Black men are in prison, on parole or probation.  This statistic has remained true since the 1990s. You attempt to spread your filth on innocent bystanders and those who actually work hard, live decent and clean lives because you cannot do so. It amazes me how you want to live in the auburbs and have the benefits of this lifestyle but you do not change, you do not develop, you do not believe in God, you drink, gamble, smoke, prey on innocent women, are on the down-low, have multiple baby mamas–then have the audacity to think you deserve a good, decent, well-mannered covered religious Sunni Muslim? You are truly sociopathic, nasty and psychotic and I hope and pray you Black men stay away from me once and for all. Just to make it clear: We don’t want you. Despite your lack if intelligence maybe some of these words will sink in.

6. You hate being Black that is why you disrespect Black women or those you assume to be black or appear to have a gradient of pigment more than white women. You grab, put your finger on and otherwise attempt to touch Sunni Muslim Black women whom you have no right to. You are a STRANGER. Only a being with demonic proclivities or a devilish soul conducts themselve in this manner. You are nasty and evil.

6. You possess the evil eye. I noticed this among many Black Christian men and women. I am not referring to *rolling eyes* because of attitude. There is a specific evil that eminates from the eye that also gives off heat and energy and most people know beforehand that they have an inability to not harass someone who is minding their business. Black Christian men are demonic and in laymens terms you are incline to cause harm or make trouble for your entertainment and devilish pleasures.

7. Why can’t you mind your business. No one is talking to you and you are not “running things.” We know you have a problem with authority, structure and civilized environments because you rarely been in a position if authirity. NEWSFLASH: you do not have authority of me so stop trying to force me to speak with you. Not interested.

Therefore if a woman, including Sunni Muslim Black women do any of the following and you continue your course of conduct  you are a predator an sexual harrasser and assaulter:

1. She ignores you/does not respond.
2. She walks away from you.
3. She rolls her eyes.
4. She crosses the street to get away from you.
5. She looks away or opposite direction.
6. She gets on her cell phone.
7. She begins speaking to a stranger to alert someone you are harming her.
8. She gives a big sigh.
9. She curses you out.

So get a clue: Black man leave me alone.

Black Man Harassed Me at Shoppers Food Warehouse

During a grocery trip to Shopper’s Food Warehouse in Prince George’s County I was steering my shopping cart towards check out. All of a sudden a black male appeared in front of my cart, forcing me to stop the cart so I would have to acknowledge him. I soon realized he did this on purpose and he just stared at me, kept clearing his throat in a “ahem” manner and began smirking or something. He would not move out from in front of my cart and blocked my movement. I just said “nigger” to make him leave me alone and he walked away.