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Street Harassed Again–NW Washington, D.C.

One evening I was leaving work from the office building. I was headed eastbound on 16th and L streets in NW, Washington, D.C.  As it was evening time it was already dark outside.  Other people were bustling also leaving work or tending to other matters. As I was walking, a dark-skinned, 6 foot-plus older black male (say pushing 60 years old) walked towards me while I was still on the sidewalk. He appeared from photothe street as a pedestrian from out of no where on my left facing the opposite direction and with a loud, condescending voice yelled to my face Hallelujah!, while looking me up and down (mind you I am always in hijab, long skirts or loose trousers) with a dirty smirk.  The dark-skinned black male simultaneously did this odd bend at a 45 degree angle to ensure I knew he was referring to me.  I was tired and solely yelled “nigger.” He immediate stood upright and began to walk away. It was then I realized that a Caucasian male was walking behind me in the same direction. I am unsure whether the demented, dark-skinned black male stopped merely because I referred to him as to what he actually was or he was embarrassed that he was called that by another person of color IN THE PRESENCE of a white male.  I believe it was a combination of both.  It was disgusting that someone who appeared possibly old as a grandfather would attempt to disrupt a cover Sunni Muslim leaving work and minding her own business.

Today’s black male is the problem. Black “Christians” today are the problem, they are a public nuisance and a public health menace.

Street Harassers in Washington, D.C. and Maryland are Democrats

It has become increasingly clear to me that the majority of street harassers, sexual predators and workplace harassers in the State of Maryland are Democrats.  Maryland and Washington, D.C. have been known for decades as being the bloc of Democratic voters which is often why national candidates do not heavily campaign in these areas.  The last election on the state level was an upset as Marylanders became increasing fed up with Democrat’s false promises, criminals and illegal aliens receiving more rights and benefits than law abiding citizens.  As I write this, it was not intended to be a political piece and this is my opinion based on observation.  However, I do feel the need to shed photolight on the blatant hypocrisy of Democrats in Maryland.  Most Black male “Christian” street harassers are the beneficiaries of the Democratic vote.  BLM, the majority of whom are black “Christians”, with their false claims to support Muslims are also Democrats.  I do not claim that all Democrats are bad, but one can easily observe that those who engage in this awful conduct are of that political party.

Of course, there are nice, middle class and even wealthy areas in Maryland, but the many of the citizen’s conduct is not consistent with what a real suburb is.  Maryland is what can be easily seen as a false suburb, the obvious degenerate urban area is the City of Baltimore which has been blighted for years and each time there is gentrification ghetto black “Christians” are pushed into the suburbs of Baltimore County, Howard County and Anne Arundel County via Section 8 housing and other welfare programs. The same has occurred with certain parts of Washington, D.C., where gentrification pushed undereducated, low wage black workers who comprise the majority of street harassers in Prince George’s County, Maryland.  This has a two-fold effect (1) those middle and upper class blacks become the victims, not just of street harassment but other crimes by vagrant blacks; (2) the façade of conservatism is shattered as most foul-mouthed, tail-chasing, bigoted Democrat birthers of out of wedlock children, coddle their black “Christian” sons who grow in their belief of entitlement without labor, as well as the right to accost, jump in a black woman’s face, and street harass because of some unbeknownst expectation supported by the false belief that women and girls (total strangers mind you) are property for them to have at their leisure.  Yet, they like to purport how advanced “Christians” are to Muslims, and how Muslim women are oppressed.  In Maryland, it is black “Christians” who vote Democrat and certain trashy whites who oppress and street harass Muslim women in their daily lives.  From the grocer, the post office, to the park, Sunni Muslim women are mocked, street harassed and accosted by those who claim belief in the teachings of Jesus Christ.  This includes black “Christian” females who attack, molest, accost and verbally abuse Sunni Muslim Black American women (members of their own race) on a daily basis.  These are the bloc of Democratic voters along I-95 and the Baltimore Washington Parkway (295) suburbs of Maryland.  These types of people are not solely black but a lot of whites who vote Democrat are not only rude, ill-mannered (attempt to run women, especially Sunni Muslim ones off the road and jump in black women’s faces), low-level vagabonds are racist as well.  So, when did being a Democrat translate to being a “Christian” who is a purveyor of mockery and an attack of all women, when so many claim to have (Christian) religious and democratic values?  I do not have the answer but understand that is today’s standard among them.

The reality is that most street harassers, aside from being uneducated, from the inner cities, slums and trailer parks and other rural truckers in Maryland have been the majority new face of the Democratic vote and the long-lasting face of street harassment in the State of Maryland.

A Tale of Two Black Male “Christian” Accosters in the State of Maryland

A young covered Sunni Muslim Black American woman was working as a cashier at the Weiss supermarket located at 9250 Washington Blvd N, Laurel, MD 20723.  On this day she was working at the customer service counter and was completing her transaction.  The customer was a black male “Christian” who kept demanding that she give him the change in his hand.  At the time the Muslim cashier was still retrieving the money from the register.  She had an eerie feeling regarding the black male and informed him that she was giving him his change but placing it on the counter.  He made the same demands and she informed him that she could not touch his hand (she already knew he was trying to get photo“more” than just change as supposed to any regular male or female customer).  She then placed the change on the counter, but close to his hand. He reached out and grabbed and tried to hold her hand. The Muslim cashier snatched her hand back while he stated, “I touched your hand, what are you going to do about it?”  She left her station to retrieve a manager and when they returned the black male “Christian” already left the store.

 I had a similar experience with a cashier at a restaurant. However, I didn’t assume that a black male who appeared to be 18 years old or less would try such a tactic with a grown woman—but this dark-skinned black male did so. I tried the same thing this sister did, to retrieve my hand quickly and was disgusted at his actions.  This black male simply laughed as if he accomplished something, well he did, accosting a covered Sunni Muslim woman.  To have a similar story as this sister, at a different place of business different years demonstrates the immoral and lustful nature of today’s black males. This was sexual harassment plain and simple, yet black male privilege and “Christian” privilege, no matter how wrong, offensive and illegal reigns supreme when the target and victim are Sunni Muslim Black American women.

BLM Hypocrisy: Most Black “Christians” Violate Civil Rights of Sunni Muslim Black Americans-Protests Against Immigration Ban a Farce: PART III

 The following incidents have happened to me, someone who I personally know or relayed to me directly by a witness to these occurrences:

1) One late morning I was driving westbound on 175 West, also known as Waterloo Road towards Columbia, Maryland (USA). There weren’t many cars in the direction I was going in the 4 car lane. I had the right away when suddenly, a dark-skinned male who appeared to be form the City of Baltimore did not yield and intentionally made a left to what became a u turn from the eastbound direction.  He intentionally drove destructively as he literally stopped in the middle of the road and stared at me like he was going to pull a weapon.  I had to wait until he would drive and he had the AUDACITY to roll his eyes at me though I had the right of way and he was the one that nearly caused an accident.

2) Someone I know stated that she witnessed two covered Muslim women at a grocery store parking lot going to their cars in NW, Washington, D.C. (USA).  A group of black American females came out of nowhere and approached them, yelled at them then accosted them.  She stated that the black females were attempting to snatch the Muslim women’s hijabs off.  The person I know who witnessed it said she stopped and noticed another woman (white) who was already dialing the police on her cell phone. Both waited until the police arrived to be sure that they could be listed as witnesses.

3)  A college student who is a Sunni Muslim Black American young woman worked as a cashier at the Weiss grocer located at 9250 Washington Blvd N, Laurel, MD 20723 (USA).  A black “Christian” female began yelling at the young Muslim cashier noting that the employee did not have an Arabic first name (for some reason she assumed in order to be a Sunni Muslim one must be a foreign national and an Arab). The young lady attempted to be patient and explained that she converted to Islam. The black female “Christian” customer berated her (total stranger) stating “If I was your mother I wouldn’t tolerate none of that.” The woman was a total stranger, held up the line and apparently does not have an iota of civility or respect for boundaries with her blind hatred.

4) At the East Columbia Public Library, 6600 Cradlerock Way, Columbia, Maryland a “religious group” (Black “Christians”) are given permission multiple spring seasons to proselytize in front of the public library (local government, publicly funded building) complaints filed. One obese woman literally blocked my entrance to the library and tried to “grill” me in the face. She is confronted by police becomes belligerent and argues at the officer and is physically removed from the property.

5) Attended an extended family member’s funeral at a First Baptist Church in Prince George’s County, Maryland. I was dressed in hijab and an abaya which I felt most comfortable in at the time in a house of worship.  One of my cousins sitting to my right was grieving heavily so I tried to comfort her as it was her dad’s death we were mourning. We were in a few rows back with other family. The Baptist preacher stared at me and interrupted whatever his ‘sermon’ was and said to me “I see we have someone who hasn’t accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as his personal savior.” Even the Christian relations were offended by his inappropriateness during their time of mourning and vulnerability. Everyone was silent and waited for the “preacher” to resume the funeral service.

6)  One day I was walking to university classes from the north to south campus buildings and there were some black male university students hanging outside.  It was apparent I was Muslim as I was in hijab and one of the black males audibly said “..if she wasn’t Muslim I would f*#@ her”:  not I would ask her out, court her, find out about her, or talk to her as a human being but rather one way or another (sexual assault) he would have his way with me. I pretended like I didn’t hear what was said and kept walking quickly, looking straight ahead.

7)  One day while driving to work in Washington, D.C., I was at a red light on New York Avenue, right before you get to the police station or academy on the right about two blocks before you can turn left onto H Street, NW, Washington, D.C. A dark-skinned black male emerged from the plexi-glass seating for the metro bus and started making masturbating gestures and thrusting. There was a white male driver in front of me with a luxury car and as soon as the light turned we drove as fast as we could to pass what was happening on the sidewalk.

8) On a bright and sunny mid-afternoon, I was returning to my car and making a purchase at the Target located 3343 Corridor Marketplace, Laurel, MD 20724 (Maryland City). As I was crossing from the store entrance walking towards the parking lot two black “Christian” females began laughing and gossiping about me. One of them stated, “..that’s why I don’t like them, they have flat butts.”  The other one responded, “nah uh, no she don’t.” I thought it was the strangest, lesbian-type of public conversation to have about a covered Sunni Muslim woman. I walked a bit quicker to get to my car.

9) One day I was in a government office in Anne Arundel County, Maryland. In the parking lot I ended up speaking with another Sunni Muslim Black American woman. I told her the observations and experiences I have had with Black “Christians” and that I did not understand why total strangers were so evil. She informed me that although she doesn’t wear hijab now, when she did, she and her brother were teased relentlessly by Black “Christians.” She even mentioned that she had a brother named Rashad and all the Black “Christians” would refer to her as “Ra-sh*@#.” The woman stopped wearing hijab primarily due to the discrimination both in social contexts with Black “Christians” and workplace discrimination because of her faith.

10) One early morning I was doing laundry at the laundromat located at 125 Bowie Rd, Laurel, MD 20707 on a Saturday. It was approximately a little after 6:00 a.m. and I was sorting clothes. I hear someone come from behind me (never made their appearance known) asking when did I arrive to the laundromat. No one said excuse me or appeared in front of me to indicate that he or she was addressing me. Second, it’s no one’s business, including a total stranger has the right to know my whereabouts. The Asian male manager and one employee was working in the laundromat so if she wanted to know when it opened she could have addressed an appropriate question to them.  But it was apparent that she felt she had the right to question and know my business though she, like all of the incidents I describe was a total stranger.

Anyway, the woman put her hand on me and tried to swing/push me around and stated with a grimace, “I’m trying to ask you a question.” I then smacked her hand off of me and stated, “You do not put your hands on a total stranger.”  Once again, the dark-skinned uncivilized black female kept talking, she responded “if you put your hands on ME again we will have a problem.” Yes, the woman who accosted me is now upset that I responded in like kind. In an even louder tone I stated “you touched me first.” She knew she couldn’t say anything further because there were cameras, witnesses and employees who saw the whole incident unfold. I continued, “..obviously I do not want to talk to you.” I informed that she was a “trouble-making n#@!r.” She turned quiet and the manager called the plaza security guard to which she said nothing further and stayed away from me the rest of the time I was doing my laundry. Once again TOTAL STRANGER.

 

BLM Hypocrisy: Most Black “Christians” Violate Civil Rights of Sunni Muslim Black Americans-Protests Against Immigration Ban a Farce: PART II

Let’s discuss some of the “support” [*sarcasm intended] I as a Sunni Muslim Black American has received from Black “Christians” in Maryland and the District of Columbia over the years (in addition to the near daily street harassment):

1)      I already posted about a black guy shallow scratching the driver front door of my car for absolutely no reason except for minding my business and not responding to his attempt to solicit unwanted conversation.

2)      Oh, one early morning a dark-skinned Black “Christian”—well actually a Jehovah Witness who lived in my apartment building at the time deep scratched the passenger rear door of my car.  She was known for being crazy and none of the residents, regardless of religion liked her. Apparently she was so annoying that even her husband left her and never returned.  However, I was the only one who received the extra deluxe treatment of her vandalizing my car. At the time, I worked long hours and woke very early in the mornings. I saw her leaving the exact spot where the scratch was which was not there the night before and because I work late I left my car in a paid, supervised garage and no scratch was there until she was near my car. Unfortunately, the apartment building had no security cameras and I did not catch her in the middle of scratching my car though I reported it to my insurance company—guess who has to pay for this dark-skinned woman’s bigotry and hate crime:  me.

3)      One day I was walking, as usual in full hijab with a long tunic shirt (it was actually a shirtdress that goes to the knees) with a pair of wool trousers. Two dark-skinned black males intentionally trying to make me uncomfortably by yelling DAYUUUUUMMMM: and stared at my backside while I was waiting for the light to change so I could return to work.

4)      In Howard County, Maryland, a dark-skinned black “Christian” male stabbed my tire with some sort of bracket in the middle of the night. My car was parked in a row of several cars and mine was the only one vandalized. I went to Mr. Tire to describe how I found the metal bracket in the side wall and he agreed it was vandalism.

5)      I was waiting in line one day for a MATINEE movie at the AMC theatre at Columbia Mall, a dark-skinned black “Christian” female kept bumping into my purse which was the only thing that separated me from her. Each time I moved further away or adjusted my purse to clear more space she would intentionally try to touch me with her right hand—total stranger.

6)      One day I was at the East Columbia Public Library on 6600 Cradlerock Way, Columbia, Maryland.  Before current renovations, there were a line of computers that had a “15 minute limit” sign on them. At these computers who must stand because they are not intended for long term use.  I was standing alone in a line of several computers and none of the others were occupied.  A dark-skinned Black “Christian” woman came in right to the computer to my immediate right. I had an inkling she was a trouble-maker and attempted to ignore the negative energy.  I was using my right hand on the mouse and out of no where this black “Christian” female takes her left hand and snatches my hand off the mouse I was using. Apparently she was a sociopathic lesbian. I immediately snatched my hand back and exited the computer and used another one. Yes, these black “Christians” male and female who are total strangers in Maryland and the District of Columbia are mentally ill trouble making molesting street harassers who never face the consequences of their actions or charges because of black “Christian” criminal privilege.  This is when moral, decent people sympathize with rhetoric against ‘Liberals” because these are the types of people that vote Democrat.

7)      At the same library on another occasion, a dark skinned black “Christian” female was using one of the standing computers. I was already seated at one of the regular computers on the main floor that are parallel to the short-term use ones.  The black female “Christian” simply looked at me and yelled “sh*#” and “f@*#” , she then chuckled. I gave her a stern look and she left the library.

8)      One day I had an appointment for a strain at the Kaiser Medical Center, located at 1221 Mercantile Lane, Upper Marlboro, Maryland 20774. After being directed to the proper office I decided to use the elevator at the last minute. I was going up and the elevator was taking a long time to close. A black “Christian” butch female comes out of no where and hops on the elevator even though I realized she was going in the opposite direction.  She looked at me and did one of those threatening “Good morning” (think of the tone when someone says “you better not say anything” I’ll kick you’re a@#”) in that tone and flinched at me. I thought it was the oddest thing and was going to leave the elevator but now the elevator was working normally. The door was closed and I responded because she was going to hit me.  This was a total stranger, as all of them are.

Two of the black female “Christian” employees kept laughing and gossiping about me until I asked the one sitting that I was going to call the insurance who made my appointment and let them know that things were switched without my permission or notification to them.

The entire appointment was a disaster because a shady physical therapist (black male) changed my appointment without notifying me and my insurance company in which I initially had a female therapist. He was a dirty old black “Christian” male who was rude and disrespectful. None of the employees would not say directly but hinted that he was the one that switched my appointment so HE could do the therapy. I filed a formal complaint through the customer service of their underhanded activity.

9)      One day I was at the IHOP located at 7371 Assateague Drive, Jessup, Maryland 20794. It was a bright sunny day and I was getting out of my car in the parking lot. I was adjusting my purse and lock the door behind me when a dark skinned Black “Christian” male started walking rapidly towards me from a Northeasterly direction. Suddenly, a Latino man emerged from his white car which was parked to the right of mine, with out of state tags (Florida) and stood looking at the black “Christian” male. The vagrant immediately turned around and walked off the IHOP property. This one surprised me as I usually do not see Latinos in Maryland defend a Black woman, let alone a covered Sunni Muslim. Then again, he had out of state tags so different kind of Latino, but I was grateful.

10)   One day I was sitting in my car waiting for it to warm up. I noticed a bulged eye, dark-skinned black male walking around the parking lot but initially dismissed it. The black male was suddenly near my car. He walked over and stood in front of the driver right front of my car and stared at me hunched through the main window. He was so close to and in front of my car that had I began to drive he would have been ran over. I kept looking down because I could not drive with him in my way and if I got out my car then he would have said something inappropriate or followed me. Another black male “Christian” stranger acting the social deviant in broad daylight (morning).

11)   One day I was at the Macy’s in Columbia Mall, looking at some shoes in that department.  A dark-skinned, overweight black “Christian” female kept giving me a ‘dirty’ look. I ignored it. She then kept walking towards me backwards near one of the shoe displays and was trying to ‘pretend’ that she didn’t see me though I could tell she was trying to bump into me so she could instigate a fight. I moved AWAY from her and she turned to me in a loud voice and said “Don’t!” I looked at her like she was crazy and two other women saw the entire incident. One of them stared the black female troublemaker down. I walked to another section of the shoe department.

On another occasion, different year, I was at the same Macy’s and was looking for a Clarisonic spinbrush (which would later be stolen by a white woman at the YMCA in Ellicott City, Maryland).  I hadn’t realized that they were made in a variety of colors, so I was looking at different boxes making sure they all cost the same.  A dark-skinned black female came from behind and tried to start an uneasy conversation, then started to get loud. I found her annoying and disruptive and had a feeling she was trying to rob me. I called over a Macy’s employee concerning the product to which she responded and would be the person to ring my purchase at the register. As I took the product intentionally the long route, I noticed the dark-skinned black female following me for no reason. She wasn’t speaking to me, I did not know her and she actually followed me to the register counter with no product in hand and was standing in line instead in back of me.  The employee looked just as uncomfortable as I did, the black female kept staring at my product and my purse. When I had to pay using the card swipe machine is on the customer’s side and is not taken behind the counter. I had to take my entire hand to conceal the numbers on my card and swiped. She was still standing there while I immediately replaced my card in my wallet and the cashier gave me my purchase and my receipt. I was initially going to return to my car but thought it best to go into the mall where several people are around, when I did so, she disappeared.

Based on decades of experience, an observant must conclude that the vast majority of today’s Black “Christians” are evil troublemakers with no qualms of performing devilish conduct in  the open–black “Christian” privilege reigns in Maryland.  God’s standards does not, no matter how many hostile ‘Jesus’ yells these black “Christians” invoke at total strangers who are minding their business.

 

Maryland’s Black male street harassers: The Modern Day Coon

Sometimes pictures can tell a story of how black women perceive black male street harassers.  At times they coon, shuffle, clear their throat, jump in front of you while you walking, going grocery shopping, doing laundry on the highway, etc.  These inept ‘apes in heat’ are desperate for attention. They have no sincere interest in you, your safety or your sanity.

The primary perpetrators are dark-skinned black males with bug eyes and low education levels. They are disgusting: 1) they try to “slide” up next to you, follow you into a store, pretend like they are getting something from the same store as you and stand close enough to attempt a “dry” raping.  They are loud, belligerent, persistent, uncivilized and lawless.  There is a hard truth with what that Dutch Prime Minister said about these ghetto hood rats–some with blue collar jobs:  they have not been broken down into the civilization process.  The only issue with his statement is that he applied it to all Blacks which is inaccurate. Just low level, simian Black “Christian” males. Do not try to sugarcoat with terms such as “urban”, no they are ghetto and/or inner-city knuckle-dragging spawn of single motherhood let loose on Blacks who have properly integrated and work hard to make something of themselves and the victims are the ones who are from the stable nuclear household–the predator is not.

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A lot of these buck dancing coons in Howard County (Jessup, Columbia–they trickle down from their ghettos of Baltimore City), Prince George’s County (Laurel, Savage, Lanham, New Carrolton, etc.) and Anne Arundel County (Laurel, Annapolis, Glen Burnie, Severn, Pasadena, Severna Park, etc.), Maryland. Not only are they uneducated or undereducated, blue collar (if employed), dark-skinned, but they are simply nasty, uncouth and think they can latch onto Sunni Muslim Black American women and other decent women. I applaud the police officers who properly rid the U.S. of these dark-skinned career criminals who oft-times commit crimes against women, including street harassment. It is just karma knocking, rather busting through the doors.  Decent Black Americans, especially Black women have thrown the welcome mat to these law enforcement officers and rightfully so.

The minstrel show used to be a mockery of up and coming Black Americans in middle class establishment. The irony it is an accurate depiction of today’s dark skinned Black “Christian” inner city, dirty, low-down, bum of a male.  Black male street harassers, one subset of modern day black demons cloaked in human flesh.

NOT INTERESTED. GET OVER YOURSELF AND GET A LIFE.

Blackman leave us alone (or will get the police to make you).

Interesting Post: Street Harassment Stops When Men Say it Stops

http://nicoleclarkconsulting.com/street-harassment-stop-when-men-say-it-stops/

Here is the text of her post:

The SlutWalk movement has taken over the world (or at least many major cities such as New York City, Toronto, Denver, and even in Delhi, India) and many believe that it has become one of the most successful feminist actions in the last 20 years. For those of you that haven’t heard of the movement, the first SlutWalk happened in April 2011 in Toronto, Canada after Canadian Constable Michael Sanguinetti, during a January 2011 York University campus safety forum stated that in order for women to be more safe, they should “avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.”

For many women of color (myself included) the term “slut” doesn’t really conjure up the same type of emotions as perhaps “bitch” or “hoe”, but regardless of whatever term is used, the premise is still the same: we are living in a society that tells women that not only are we the weaker sex, but that we are responsible for making sure that men don’t attack, assault, harass, stalk or rape us. That’s a pretty tall order.

SlutWalk may be the “it” thing right now, but there has been an anti-street harassment movement brewing over the last several years. From The Line Campaign to Hollaback!, women are proclaiming that it’s time for men to really take a step back and realize the behaviors that they and their peers are participating in. Yet the sad thing about it is that women shouldn’t even be the ones leading this effort. How many women do you know stand on corners and stare at and try to speak to every man that walks by? How many women do you know will tell a man that if he weren’t outside at a certain time of night/weren’t wearing certain types of clothing/weren’t drunk/weren’t trying to flirt that it’s his fault for whatever happens to him? No, I don’t think it’s women’s responsibility to tell men that this type of behavior is inappropriate. No, I don’t think that women should live in fear or in annoyance when they see a group of men standing on the corner. And no, I don’t think women should be the main ones marching by the thousands to tell men just how ridiculous their logic is for thinking that a woman deserves to be sexually assaulted or called out her name due to what she’s wearing or how she turns down a man’s advances. Street harassment and all violence against women will stop once men decide to stand up and declare that it stops.

*Where is my soap box?*

I first experienced street harassment during my freshman year of college. My friends and I would walk to the train station or to the grocery store. We would hear voices from strangers that we would pass on the sidewalk, or we’d hear voices from cars that have suddenly slowed their pace. I remember us ignoring the voices mostly, but when it got to the point where these voices would begin following us, we all would be uncomfortable. And oftentimes the silent stares were more uncomfortable than the comments. Even in the warmer months I would try to get away with wearing tops with long sleeves or carry my school bag in a way that would hide my buttocks. At that time, I didn’t know that the term “street harassment” even existed. I just knew the feeling I had, and it wasn’t good. I used to hate walking to the nearby shopping area or the train station out of fear of someone speaking to me inappropriately. Yet, as I went through college I went from feeling embarrassed to feeling apathetic. I once thought that this problem was only within the confines of the surrounding area of my campus, but obviously I was wrong. I’m nearing age 30, and at times I still resort to these “prevention methods”, and have now graduated to wearing earbuds to blast music and drown out the catcalls.

Street harassment comes in a variety of forms: catcalling, groping, sexually explicit comments, someone honking their horn at you as you walk down the street (and it’s not to ask for directions), grabbing your arm with no indication that you even wanted to be touched, whistling, someone telling you what they would do to you sexually if you were alone, and even someone leaning into you and saying “hello beautiful” as you walk down by (because it is, in fact, getting into your personal space.)

Many women and girls are harassed daily, and many feel helpless to stop it. In an attempt to prevent street harassment from happening, we begin to limit the amount of time we spend outside or we make sure that we’re not out at certain times of night. We begin to wear baggy or unflattering clothing. But these acts don’t deter individuals from harassing us. Street harassment can lead to violence, and it doesn’t matter what race or ethnicity you are. Many of us do not do anything about street harassment because we’re afraid that we’ll be placed in harm’s way. And that’s the rub. You never know how a man is going to react once you make the decision to put him in his place. Which it why I understand the purpose of movements like SlutWalk. Thousands of women (and many male supporters) coming together to let these men know that this type of behavior will not be tolerated anymore seems more powerful and doesn’t really place a woman in harm’s way compared to going at it alone.

Now that we know what street harassment is, let’s discuss what street harassment prevention is not:

Street harassment prevention is not about women taking self defense classes. My college’s public safety department held a self-defense class during freshman orientation week, and after the class we received a whistle. The whistle was for using against someone if we felt that we were unsafe. The students on my campus were the only ones with these whistles, and I never knew of any student who actually used their whistle. On top of that, the whistles were a joke throughout the university center. This isn’t to demean the purpose of taking self-defense classes because there are people who feel that they are necessary. However, instead of bringing women in to take self defense classes and have mace and whistles at our disposal, perhaps we should create more programs that help men to recognize street harassment and to find ways to help change their behaviors.

Street harassment prevention is not about letting men duck responsibility. The “boys will be boys” mentality has to stop. By not speaking out about street harassment (in whichever way you choose) we’re telling men that they aren’t responsible for their actions and aren’t capable of controlling themselves. If I were a man, I would be very offended by this. And if you watch this video about boys being microwaves and girls being crockpots, you’ll understand what I’m talking about.

Street harassment prevention is not about women solely being responsible for speaking up. A man who watches his friend street harass someone and doesn’t say anything is no different from the actual harasser. I’ve seen plenty of incidences where a group of men would stand idly by with blank expressions on their faces while one of them disrespects a woman passing by. I’ve heard men say that they’ve been afraid to say anything, even though they know it’s wrong. Would these same men be afraid to speak up if the woman being harassed was their mother or sister? If a man feels afraid to speak up for what he knows is right (i.e., telling his friend that he needs to check his behavior), that says a lot about the type of person a man chooses to surround himself with…and it says a lot about him. This actually makes me feel sorry for younger men who participate in street harassment. Along with the media’s influence, where else are they learning this behavior? Who else? Their older counterparts.

Street harassment prevention is not about what a woman is wearing. If it were really about clothing, women in the Middle East who are walking around completely covered up in broad daylight wouldn’t be getting assaulted or harassed.

Street harassment is deeply ingrained in communities of color, which is why many don’t see it as a problem. Street harassment will continue to prevail until men stand up and decide that this behavior needs to stop. We need to teach young men how to treat a woman with respect. We need to teach young men that what they’re listening to, reading, and watching on television may not be how a woman expects to be treated. We need to teach young men that it’s OK to tell their older counterparts that how they behave towards women is unacceptable. Street harassment will continue to also prevail because, unfortunately, there are women who respond to it. Along with men standing up and taking responsibility, we need to teach ourselves and our young women that we are more than just entities that should be hollered at on the street. We need to teach young women that it should require a little more creativity for a man to get our attention. And honking a car horn shouldn’t be one of them.

Street harassment, physical violence, and sexual violence against women won’t stop because we as women want it to stop. It stops when men decide that it stops.

*hops off soapbox*

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My reminder: Like I said 98% of street harassers are black males, the first step in solving a problem is admitting that there is one. In the State of Maryland, Black “Christian” males are the problem. They are domestic terrorists in more ways than one and the Black woman is the proverbial and literal carnage.