Harassed by Black Male at Traffic Light: Prince George’s County

One mid morning I was driving southbound on a major route (I cannot recall the route number)in Prince George’s County which intersects with Patuxent Parkway. while stopped on red at one of the traffic lights, I heard a fair skinned black male yelling at me from the passenger side of a black sedan.

Initially, I thought my gas cap door was opened or something only to realize that this black male was yelling in the middle of traffic for my phone number. Since I already had my shades on I turned back to look straight ahead though I glanced when I saw him throw an object at my car.  Though I saw it, I didn’t hear it, so I concluded he missed my car.

When I arrived at the Target parking lot I decided to take a look-see over the left side of my car. Lo and behold the black male harasser had threw a wad of chewed gum which was stuck at on the front side, appearing moist and strands of gum streaked alongside. Luckily I carry ‘Goo Gone’ (from Home Depot) in my car and had some napkins which I used to get most of it off.

This is what black males do, attempt to destroy personal property and mock you when you reject their advances. Black man, not interested. 

Black Man Kills Black Woman Because She Rejected His Advances October 2014

Like I said black males are sinister and believe Black woman’s primary purpose on earth is to satisfy their inordinate sexual needs. A Black woman already in a relationship which she disclosed. Quite frankly it is no one’s business whether this or any other woman is in a relationship if she is not interested she’s not interested. Back off. Here’s the article:
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http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5945518
Woman Shot, Killed After Saying No To A Man’s Advances, Detroit Police Say
Kate Abbey-Lambertz The Huffington Post 10/07/14 02:06 PM ET
Police say a man shot and killed a woman after she rejected his advances at an event in Detroit over the weekend. Five people were also injured during the incident.

Mary Spears, 27, was at the American Legion Joe Louis Post No. 375 on the east side of Detroit when the 38-year-old suspect allegedly approached her and began talking to her, according to WDIV.

When the suspect asked for her number, Spears, whose fiancé was also at the event, told him she was already involved with someone, WJBK reports. The suspect, however, continued harassing her, family members told the station.

Police said security took the man out of the club through the back door and escorted him to the front. After a fight broke out, the suspect allegedly took out a handgun and began shooting, killing Spears around 2 a.m. Sunday.

Some on social media were horrified by the news.

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This is an op-ed about her death:
Who cries when black women die?

I’m not asking that as some type of rhetorical, poetic question, meant to move you toward ferocious finger snaps. I want to know. Who cries when black women die?

Further, who cries when black women are killed?

Mary Spears was killed. The man who killed her did so because she refused to give him her phone number. She told him “I have a man I can’t talk to you,” and yet he persisted. Rather than respect her wishes to be left alone, he shot her.

Who cries when black women die from street harassment? 

I really do need an answer. Because Mary Spears’s right to move about freely in the world was denied to her, her life taken from her, and there are no marches. No one has broken out the bullhorns or their comfortable sneakers. There are no widespread calls to protect the autonomy of black women and their bodies. The community leaders haven’t deemed this unacceptable and a fate no one should ever face simply because they reject a man’s advances.

No, when black women die from that toxic mix of violent misogyny, male entitlement, and hypermasculine posturing, there is no movement to be born. There are condolences to be offered and “unfortunate”s to be uttered, but no tears to be cried. There is no anger that propels action.

You’ve read this piece before. You’ve read it a dozen times over. I’ve written it before. I could have written it a dozen times over. It’s the piece where someone complains about how little outrage there is surrounding something which deeply affects them, and then the reader is left to wonder, “Well, if it means that much to you, what are YOU doing about it?” You may have written that piece before. And we keep writing them because I don’t think any of us are quite sure what to do.

Where black women are concerned, we aren’t just talking about mounting the evils of misogyny, or even racism. We compete with the sacrifices black women make for their community.

I understand that there’s an impulse to not make black men the faces of street harassment, given all of the ideas that already exist around black male hypersexuality, as well as the disproportionate amount of police violence that black men face as the result of the constant criminalization of behaviors associated with black men. But black women have been allowed to suffer too much for the protection of black men. They have paid with their lives.

And here I am, writing another blog post wondering why no one seems to care.

Street harassment is vile. It makes women feel unsafe in public. But when black women die because we have failed to teach boys and men to keep their thoughts and hands to themselves, that they are not entitled to the sexual attention of any and every woman, or that their attempts at proving their masculinity through verbal and physical assaults on women are failures, the concern fades before it has a chance to actually surface. Black women are expected to keep sacrificing.

Who cries when black women die? Nobody. No damn body.

Mychal Denzel Smith is a Knobler Fellow at The Nation Institute. 

An Open letter to Black (Christian) Men

An open letter to Black Men:

Please leave me alone. I am a covered practicing Sunni Muslim in Maryland, I wish that you do not attempt to interact with me, drop lines, insult or harass me. The majority of you are Black and Christian or atheist. Why would you think a religious Muslim woman would be interested in you or complimented by your foul behavior? I find you nasty and disgusting. When I am at the Subway sandwich shop or Royal Farms and next to pay for my merchandise–you hover and linger at the register when your transaction is complete to make an excuse to stare to get my attention, make a pretext to touch me (“bump”) into me. Black Christian males you reinforce civilized society’s belief you are a threat. Well, because you constantly threaten my safety, your consistent pestering, sexual street harassment behavior have given countless women of color post-traumatic stress syndrome. While you think you have ‘game’ we look at you like the predatory phallic beasts you are–the reality is that you are a constant threat. The only person you impress is yourself with self-delusion (and unintelligible reinforcement by your groupthink/gang/homeboys who do not understand how the rest of the world, including Sunni Muslim Black American women see you) of sexual prowness which demonstrates you operate on a base/animalistic level. Just because your black Christian mother coddled you and reinforced your belief that whites are the sole source of your woes does not give you a pass to harass innocent women who make it obvious they have no desire to be harassed by you by:
1. Not responding to you;
2. Turning away;
3. Cursing you out;
4. Walking away from you.

You set yourself up for rejection by attempting to go after good, decent, educated religious women you have no chance with. Then you get upset with the target of your savage desires. You are not a Muslim (Ive seen the inner city converts-majority of you are just the same as–thugs with elf look claiming to follow Sunnah). If a Muslim was to bend the rules for a non-Muslim man it surely WOULD NOT BE FOR A BLACK ONE.

It is not just solely preference and disgust with your public behavior, statistically and objectively you are a poor choice for a decent woman who wants a beneficial future for a nuclear family and here’s why:
1. While many ethnic American men may not be religious many do respect religion. Black men do not, you do not respect structure, organization, or personal responsibility. Yet, you think you have the right yo access Sunni Muslim Black women because of their value. Our value is strengthened because our religion cultivated us and we know you don’t value the thing  (our beliefs) which helped to make us who we are so surely you will only harm, abuse or destroy us (demonstrated simply by your hostile attitude and the fact you try to “holla” at a covered Sunni Muslim; you wouldn’t dare approach a white nun–period). You are sociopathic bullies who try to intimidate respect out if people, thus do not know what respect is. Yes, many of us are afraid of you. When we see you we see harm; while you are laughing while nothing is funny we are thinking of calling law enforcement. You act like thugs but get upset when decent people stay away from you out of fear and claim racism. Well, I am a decent Sunni Muslim black woman I do the same-I know your modis operendi.
2. Statistically black men rape and sexually assault both black and white women–often. You have no self-control or self-restraint–today’s Black Christian male possess a prominent bestial nature. Thus, you are more proned to harm women.
3. You are ill-mannered and disrespectful in the name of rebelling against ‘the system’ but you only achieve disrespecting Sunni Muslim black and other decent women.
4. You are mysogynistic and view women as property:
a. No you cannot ‘get a smile.’ I owe you nothing. You are a stranger who is invading my space. I do not engage in unnecessary interactions with men generally, especially black ones.
b. No you cannot “holla” at me for “a second.” I will not allow a strange sexual predator to raise his voice at me or “drop lines” to contribute to your insatiable ego. I am not a “shortay” and stop venturing into our suburbs to prey on us. In other words no you cannot “talk” to me. Simply disgusting. You are sloppy, nasty, uneducated and do nothing more than sniff around. You do not belong among humans.
c. It is not flattering to keep clearing your throat, making hacking/hog spitting noises to get my attention. Clearly the only way you are capable of communicating with an actual human being is through these uncouthe, bestial sounds that you presume is some type of mating ritual. Reality check: you are the only one participating stay away from me.
5. 1:4 Black men are in prison, on parole or probation.  This statistic has remained true since the 1990s. You attempt to spread your filth on innocent bystanders and those who actually work hard, live decent and clean lives because you cannot do so. It amazes me how you want to live in the auburbs and have the benefits of this lifestyle but you do not change, you do not develop, you do not believe in God, you drink, gamble, smoke, prey on innocent women, are on the down-low, have multiple baby mamas–then have the audacity to think you deserve a good, decent, well-mannered covered religious Sunni Muslim? You are truly sociopathic, nasty and psychotic and I hope and pray you Black men stay away from me once and for all. Just to make it clear: We don’t want you. Despite your lack if intelligence maybe some of these words will sink in.

6. You hate being Black that is why you disrespect Black women or those you assume to be black or appear to have a gradient of pigment more than white women. You grab, put your finger on and otherwise attempt to touch Sunni Muslim Black women whom you have no right to. You are a STRANGER. Only a being with demonic proclivities or a devilish soul conducts themselve in this manner. You are nasty and evil.

6. You possess the evil eye. I noticed this among many Black Christian men and women. I am not referring to *rolling eyes* because of attitude. There is a specific evil that eminates from the eye that also gives off heat and energy and most people know beforehand that they have an inability to not harass someone who is minding their business. Black Christian men are demonic and in laymens terms you are incline to cause harm or make trouble for your entertainment and devilish pleasures.

7. Why can’t you mind your business. No one is talking to you and you are not “running things.” We know you have a problem with authority, structure and civilized environments because you rarely been in a position if authirity. NEWSFLASH: you do not have authority of me so stop trying to force me to speak with you. Not interested.

Therefore if a woman, including Sunni Muslim Black women do any of the following and you continue your course of conduct  you are a predator an sexual harrasser and assaulter:

1. She ignores you/does not respond.
2. She walks away from you.
3. She rolls her eyes.
4. She crosses the street to get away from you.
5. She looks away or opposite direction.
6. She gets on her cell phone.
7. She begins speaking to a stranger to alert someone you are harming her.
8. She gives a big sigh.
9. She curses you out.

So get a clue: Black man leave me alone.