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REPOST-Photo Chart: Black “Christian” male street harassers: Spring 2017

WARNING:

In the United States, Spring 2017 is o the horizon and is estimated to start March 20, 2017.  Unfortunately, women will witness and be the victims of more sexual-street harassment at the hands of low-level Black “Christian” males in the State of Maryland and Washington, D.C. Below is a picture demonstration of what decent women have to mentally and physically prepare for (self-defense, mace, calling the police, walking quickly or with a friend) in order to stave off and secure their own safety. Today’s  black “Christian” males will be on the prowl to street harass, assault, accost, disrespect you and although it is against the law, no one cares what happens to  covered Sunni Muslim Black women–especially as demonic, lust-hound black males are the root of the problem.

Low-level, illiterate, uneducated, dark-skinned, hanging on the street, loose tongue, wandering eyed licentious black males are on the prowl more than ever before be vigilant and for your own safety avoid them as much as possible.  They are similar to the dirty old white male hillbillies in the same areas of Maryland.

 

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Photo Chart: Black “Christian” male street harassers: Spring 2017

WARNING:

In the United States, Spring 2017 is o the horizon and is estimated to start March 20, 2017.  Unfortunately, women will witness and be the victims of more sexual-street harassment at the hands of low-level Black “Christian” males in the State of Maryland and Washington, D.C. Below is a picture demonstration of what decent women have to mentally and physically prepare for (self-defense, mace, calling the police, walking quickly or with a friend) in order to stave off and secure their own safety. Today’s  black “Christian” males will be on the prowl to street harass, assault, accost, disrespect you and although it is against the law, no one cares what happens to  covered Sunni Muslim Black women–especially as demonic, lust-hound black males are the root of the problem.

Low-level, illiterate, uneducated, dark-skinned, hanging on the street, loose tongue, wandering eyed licentious black males are on the prowl more than ever before be vigilant and for your own safety avoid them as much as possible.  They are similar to the dirty old white male hillbillies in the same areas of Maryland.

 

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Maryland’s Black male street harassers: The Modern Day Coon

Sometimes pictures can tell a story of how black women perceive black male street harassers.  At times they coon, shuffle, clear their throat, jump in front of you while you walking, going grocery shopping, doing laundry on the highway, etc.  These inept ‘apes in heat’ are desperate for attention. They have no sincere interest in you, your safety or your sanity.

The primary perpetrators are dark-skinned black males with bug eyes and low education levels. They are disgusting: 1) they try to “slide” up next to you, follow you into a store, pretend like they are getting something from the same store as you and stand close enough to attempt a “dry” raping.  They are loud, belligerent, persistent, uncivilized and lawless.  There is a hard truth with what that Dutch Prime Minister said about these ghetto hood rats–some with blue collar jobs:  they have not been broken down into the civilization process.  The only issue with his statement is that he applied it to all Blacks which is inaccurate. Just low level, simian Black “Christian” males. Do not try to sugarcoat with terms such as “urban”, no they are ghetto and/or inner-city knuckle-dragging spawn of single motherhood let loose on Blacks who have properly integrated and work hard to make something of themselves and the victims are the ones who are from the stable nuclear household–the predator is not.

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A lot of these buck dancing coons in Howard County (Jessup, Columbia–they trickle down from their ghettos of Baltimore City), Prince George’s County (Laurel, Savage, Lanham, New Carrolton, etc.) and Anne Arundel County (Laurel, Annapolis, Glen Burnie, Severn, Pasadena, Severna Park, etc.), Maryland. Not only are they uneducated or undereducated, blue collar (if employed), dark-skinned, but they are simply nasty, uncouth and think they can latch onto Sunni Muslim Black American women and other decent women. I applaud the police officers who properly rid the U.S. of these dark-skinned career criminals who oft-times commit crimes against women, including street harassment. It is just karma knocking, rather busting through the doors.  Decent Black Americans, especially Black women have thrown the welcome mat to these law enforcement officers and rightfully so.

The minstrel show used to be a mockery of up and coming Black Americans in middle class establishment. The irony it is an accurate depiction of today’s dark skinned Black “Christian” inner city, dirty, low-down, bum of a male.  Black male street harassers, one subset of modern day black demons cloaked in human flesh.

NOT INTERESTED. GET OVER YOURSELF AND GET A LIFE.

Blackman leave us alone (or will get the police to make you).

Interesting Post: Street Harassment Stops When Men Say it Stops

http://nicoleclarkconsulting.com/street-harassment-stop-when-men-say-it-stops/

Here is the text of her post:

The SlutWalk movement has taken over the world (or at least many major cities such as New York City, Toronto, Denver, and even in Delhi, India) and many believe that it has become one of the most successful feminist actions in the last 20 years. For those of you that haven’t heard of the movement, the first SlutWalk happened in April 2011 in Toronto, Canada after Canadian Constable Michael Sanguinetti, during a January 2011 York University campus safety forum stated that in order for women to be more safe, they should “avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.”

For many women of color (myself included) the term “slut” doesn’t really conjure up the same type of emotions as perhaps “bitch” or “hoe”, but regardless of whatever term is used, the premise is still the same: we are living in a society that tells women that not only are we the weaker sex, but that we are responsible for making sure that men don’t attack, assault, harass, stalk or rape us. That’s a pretty tall order.

SlutWalk may be the “it” thing right now, but there has been an anti-street harassment movement brewing over the last several years. From The Line Campaign to Hollaback!, women are proclaiming that it’s time for men to really take a step back and realize the behaviors that they and their peers are participating in. Yet the sad thing about it is that women shouldn’t even be the ones leading this effort. How many women do you know stand on corners and stare at and try to speak to every man that walks by? How many women do you know will tell a man that if he weren’t outside at a certain time of night/weren’t wearing certain types of clothing/weren’t drunk/weren’t trying to flirt that it’s his fault for whatever happens to him? No, I don’t think it’s women’s responsibility to tell men that this type of behavior is inappropriate. No, I don’t think that women should live in fear or in annoyance when they see a group of men standing on the corner. And no, I don’t think women should be the main ones marching by the thousands to tell men just how ridiculous their logic is for thinking that a woman deserves to be sexually assaulted or called out her name due to what she’s wearing or how she turns down a man’s advances. Street harassment and all violence against women will stop once men decide to stand up and declare that it stops.

*Where is my soap box?*

I first experienced street harassment during my freshman year of college. My friends and I would walk to the train station or to the grocery store. We would hear voices from strangers that we would pass on the sidewalk, or we’d hear voices from cars that have suddenly slowed their pace. I remember us ignoring the voices mostly, but when it got to the point where these voices would begin following us, we all would be uncomfortable. And oftentimes the silent stares were more uncomfortable than the comments. Even in the warmer months I would try to get away with wearing tops with long sleeves or carry my school bag in a way that would hide my buttocks. At that time, I didn’t know that the term “street harassment” even existed. I just knew the feeling I had, and it wasn’t good. I used to hate walking to the nearby shopping area or the train station out of fear of someone speaking to me inappropriately. Yet, as I went through college I went from feeling embarrassed to feeling apathetic. I once thought that this problem was only within the confines of the surrounding area of my campus, but obviously I was wrong. I’m nearing age 30, and at times I still resort to these “prevention methods”, and have now graduated to wearing earbuds to blast music and drown out the catcalls.

Street harassment comes in a variety of forms: catcalling, groping, sexually explicit comments, someone honking their horn at you as you walk down the street (and it’s not to ask for directions), grabbing your arm with no indication that you even wanted to be touched, whistling, someone telling you what they would do to you sexually if you were alone, and even someone leaning into you and saying “hello beautiful” as you walk down by (because it is, in fact, getting into your personal space.)

Many women and girls are harassed daily, and many feel helpless to stop it. In an attempt to prevent street harassment from happening, we begin to limit the amount of time we spend outside or we make sure that we’re not out at certain times of night. We begin to wear baggy or unflattering clothing. But these acts don’t deter individuals from harassing us. Street harassment can lead to violence, and it doesn’t matter what race or ethnicity you are. Many of us do not do anything about street harassment because we’re afraid that we’ll be placed in harm’s way. And that’s the rub. You never know how a man is going to react once you make the decision to put him in his place. Which it why I understand the purpose of movements like SlutWalk. Thousands of women (and many male supporters) coming together to let these men know that this type of behavior will not be tolerated anymore seems more powerful and doesn’t really place a woman in harm’s way compared to going at it alone.

Now that we know what street harassment is, let’s discuss what street harassment prevention is not:

Street harassment prevention is not about women taking self defense classes. My college’s public safety department held a self-defense class during freshman orientation week, and after the class we received a whistle. The whistle was for using against someone if we felt that we were unsafe. The students on my campus were the only ones with these whistles, and I never knew of any student who actually used their whistle. On top of that, the whistles were a joke throughout the university center. This isn’t to demean the purpose of taking self-defense classes because there are people who feel that they are necessary. However, instead of bringing women in to take self defense classes and have mace and whistles at our disposal, perhaps we should create more programs that help men to recognize street harassment and to find ways to help change their behaviors.

Street harassment prevention is not about letting men duck responsibility. The “boys will be boys” mentality has to stop. By not speaking out about street harassment (in whichever way you choose) we’re telling men that they aren’t responsible for their actions and aren’t capable of controlling themselves. If I were a man, I would be very offended by this. And if you watch this video about boys being microwaves and girls being crockpots, you’ll understand what I’m talking about.

Street harassment prevention is not about women solely being responsible for speaking up. A man who watches his friend street harass someone and doesn’t say anything is no different from the actual harasser. I’ve seen plenty of incidences where a group of men would stand idly by with blank expressions on their faces while one of them disrespects a woman passing by. I’ve heard men say that they’ve been afraid to say anything, even though they know it’s wrong. Would these same men be afraid to speak up if the woman being harassed was their mother or sister? If a man feels afraid to speak up for what he knows is right (i.e., telling his friend that he needs to check his behavior), that says a lot about the type of person a man chooses to surround himself with…and it says a lot about him. This actually makes me feel sorry for younger men who participate in street harassment. Along with the media’s influence, where else are they learning this behavior? Who else? Their older counterparts.

Street harassment prevention is not about what a woman is wearing. If it were really about clothing, women in the Middle East who are walking around completely covered up in broad daylight wouldn’t be getting assaulted or harassed.

Street harassment is deeply ingrained in communities of color, which is why many don’t see it as a problem. Street harassment will continue to prevail until men stand up and decide that this behavior needs to stop. We need to teach young men how to treat a woman with respect. We need to teach young men that what they’re listening to, reading, and watching on television may not be how a woman expects to be treated. We need to teach young men that it’s OK to tell their older counterparts that how they behave towards women is unacceptable. Street harassment will continue to also prevail because, unfortunately, there are women who respond to it. Along with men standing up and taking responsibility, we need to teach ourselves and our young women that we are more than just entities that should be hollered at on the street. We need to teach young women that it should require a little more creativity for a man to get our attention. And honking a car horn shouldn’t be one of them.

Street harassment, physical violence, and sexual violence against women won’t stop because we as women want it to stop. It stops when men decide that it stops.

*hops off soapbox*

END OF HER POST


My reminder: Like I said 98% of street harassers are black males, the first step in solving a problem is admitting that there is one. In the State of Maryland, Black “Christian” males are the problem. They are domestic terrorists in more ways than one and the Black woman is the proverbial and literal carnage.

 

Three Characteristics of Black Male Street Harassers

In the State of Maryland, especially in counties such as Howard, Prince George’s Anne Arundel and Baltimore County (and of course Baltimore City) there are three distinguishable traits that any decent woman can discern from the typical black male street harasser.  They are quite reminiscent of what normal functioning, intelligent children are taught and grasp the concept of basic respect of human beings who may cross their paths in normal everyday settings.

1) The black male street harassers a/k/a apes in heat have nothing “nice” or proper to say to their intended targets. [If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all].  They are flustered and frustrated and because of the lack of intelligence they are dumbfounded as to why a decent woman not only rejects their inappropriate (and criminal) behavior but is simply disgusted and repelled by it as well.  No worries, the black male street harasser will pursue his own form of self therapy by designating decent women who reject them as “crazy,” “stuck up,” and “she ain’t right.” Yes, to these social vultures a decent woman who demands to be treated with respect and not have unattractive, disrespectful, ghetto black boys further disrupt her personal space or her day is dismissively deemed by them is not right. PSA to black male street harassers: You are not right! You disrespect religious women, decent women (regardless of belief system) and women who mind their business.  You cannot handle rejection because you are constantly coddled by your Black “Christian’ mother who sees you as either her free ride ticket ala welfare or her mate replacement due to single motherhood.

Therefore, your only line of attack is to insult, in the more ways than one. You see putting your hands on a TOTAL STRANGER is beyond an insult, it is criminal. Verbally abusing a woman because she has ABSOLUTELY no interest in your kind is an insult. The world does not revolve around you. Decent women of color should not have to tolerate your abuse, sexual harassment and sexual assault just because you think “she’s cute.” You are disgusting and reptilian and you deserve every form of disdain society has to offer.  Yet, you have the unintelligent and misinformed audacity to insult decent, innocent women who know better than to tolerate your ignorance, foolishness and crimes.   Get over yourself and stay out of our faces:  especially the ugly, dark-skinned, uneducated, uncivilized black males in Howard County and Prince George’s County, Maryland.  You are the reason white flight is rampant. Please also note that 98% today’s dark-skinned black male “Christians” who street harass.

2) They have an INABILITY to keep their hands to themselves.  [Keep your hands to yourself].  There are subtle, not so subtle and extreme behaviors on this criminal spectrum.  The first is to pretend to “brush” by their intended victims.  Yes, black males at Howard County Library on Cradlerock Road, Columbia, Maryland including the old black male librarian with the greying beard is guilty of this.  Of course they only do this to black female patrons.  They will also do this at grocery stores, box stores, restaurants, any place there is a female and a black male she will likely be a victim.  Of course there is the most obvious, trying to touch you:  standing too close behind you in the line as they prepare to “dry” rape you. Reaching out to GRAB a woman’s arm or hand while she uses a computer or walking on a public sidewalk.  The most obvious is the grope; this touching is distinguishable from the just mentioned one as this is geared towards a woman’s private parts (including that which lies below her décolletage).  Black males today (this is particularly acute among the dark-skinned ones) are generally black devils.  They are in a constant wicked mode of sniffing, plotting and trying to “slide up next to” a TOTAL stranger in order to street harass and rape his intended female target.  Black males in Maryland are naturally uncouthe, sinister, disrespectful, annoying, social rapists who try to play the victim card (as a black male) when in reality they are the criminals, the perpetrators and predators let loose on decent society where no woman is safe. Broad daylight, makes no difference, it just emboldens them as civil society remain in shock that they are allowed to roam the streets without repurcussion for their actions.  Make sure that there are consequences and file charges for EVERY offense these black predators do. Street harassment, sexual assault, verbal harassment, stalking, are all not only immnoral (of course they are not bound by a center of ethos) but it is ILLEGAL.  Make them pay until they can no longer be amongst civilized society.

3) Black “Christian” males in today’s Maryland like to buck their eyes and attempt to intimidate and make women feel uncomfortable when they are in your presence. [It’s not polite to stare]. There is a saying that the eyes are the window into one’s soul.  It is can be an intimate exchange or an invasive tactic.  The purpose of this black male tactic is to make a women feel vulnerable. These bug eyes dark skinned black males use your moment of feeling uncomfortable or intimidated as the prime opportunity to pounce on a woman’s natural fear of them.  Black males respect no women in Maryland, they may be hesitant towards white women only because white males will lynch them, but they still don’t respect them.  Women in the eyes of the majority of ugly, dark-skinned black males are the object to be abused, conquered and destroyed for their Satanic jollies and thumb about their hateful and disrespectful exploits on their technological devices.

It would be easy to say to simply ignore it, but this is today’s dark-skinned black males. They will literally jump in your face, get loud and speak to a total stranger with inappropriate familiarity in order to disrespect you because they hate themselves. Notice that these societal rejects and low brow Negroes RARERLY if ever do this to white women. Black males have no compunction about disrespecting Black women, doesn’t matter if you are Catholic, Baptist, a covered Muslim, black males hate that from which they came and believe that because of the mistaken coddling that their black mothers poorly indoctrinated into them, black woman who are total strangers owe the same to them. When you do not you will be erroneously and heartlessly accused of “thinking that you’re white” when all you are doing is being a decent woman.  Black male street harassers live their lives as low-life animals and realize that animals belong with animals and thus they are faced with the reality of their own lack of humanity.

Black man get out of my face, stop being disrespectful and most of all: Black man leave me alone.

Words of Note: Spring 2016-Maryland Edition

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Congratulations! You have reached Spring 2016, unfortunately it is the start of a new season of street harassment via Black “Christian” males. This is what you have to look forward to:

Black “Christian” males who used the fall and winter seasons to stalk, plot and plan who would be their targets in the State of Maryland which results in:

  1. Black males who are TOTAL STRANGERS knocking on your apartment or house door pretending that they belong in your area as to not arouse suspicion of neighbors. Be prepared to notify your leasing manager, local police and neighborhood watch of these vagrants. They are particular adamant if they assume that you are single.
  2. Black males who are TOTAL STRANGERS following you in the parking lot. The warning used to be to never carry too many bags and to have your keys readily available. It does not matter if it is night time or daytime, morning or afternoon, if you have handfuls of bags or just your purse, they will dart in your immediate direction seeking to intimidate, street harass and accost you. Good luck on calling 911, especially if in Prince George’s or Howard County, Maryland, sometimes the non-emergency line is just as busy as the regular emergency line.
  3. Standing in line: Whether it is your local grocer, Royal Farms, IHOP or the gas station these low level Black male stalkers will attempt to “dry rape” you in broad daylight and in the public’s eye by standing too close behind you in line. When you move to increase space, they will do the same to shorten it. You are a woman and to the black male you are nothing but a vessel for him to plot to land his “Johnson” by use of force.
  4. Black males will position themselves strategically on walls or front entrances of businesses in order to be in prime location to street harass female customers who enter business establishments.
  5. Black males will be (especially on Route 1) stopping in the middle of traffic while the light is green in order to get your attention. They cause accidents or nearly do so because they ‘break their necks’ trying to look at women who are driving in traffic trying to get from one point to another.

Black males who may have finally realized that street/sexual harassment will not be tolerated either by neighborhood support, the good Samaritan intervening, a restraining order or your local rental office being placed on notice will act in the following manner:

  1. If you are successful in warding off the street harassment, you will be verbally abused. Anything from being called “stuck up” a “b****,” or having your heterosexuality questioned because you have refused to be treated like a piece of meat.
  2. These Black male losers will still try to seek your attention by literally standing in your vicinity in places you may frequent, that is the Laundromat, grocery stores, etc. and state in a very audible tone: my wife [this and that…], or my girlfriend, or my fiancé—as if you are to be offended that you were able to dismiss a low level, immoral, adulterous, demonic Black “Christian” who now has let the public know that he was up to no good, has no moral compass and is nothing but a hound dog. Let’s explore. If you had these supposed partners, it is a reflection on YOU that you street harass decent women who are minding their business nor did not solicit any attention from you. It shows that you hate and disrespect all women, both to the ones who claim to be committed to and the ones you attempted to get attention from. Unfortunately, Black males are proud of these stereotypes because they have no substance.  They do not build communities or attempt to become rulers of the world.  Their primary long term goals in life consist of buying sneakers, jeans, fast car and sniffing around women to see which ones they can successfully clinch their uncouth paws into and destroy via sexual assault and street harassment (and numerous other crimes); and wonder why the world has little to no respect for their existence nowadays.

Black males in Maryland you are the systemic problem in today’s Black community.  These Black “Christian” males believe street harassment is some sort sport while you attempt impose your immorality, licentiousness and post traumatic stress syndrome.

Black “Christian” males in Maryland have devolved into the low level strangers who continue to purvey the stereotype of laziness, sloth, sexual deviancy and inherent criminality through various illegal and immoral activities and this includes sexual/street harassment.

To all women be safe and vigilant and if you live in Maryland, be especially aware of black “Christian” males in your vicinity.  You are not safe when they are present. It is a harsh reality but the truth will keep you alive and hopefully safe.

Black man leave me alone.

Her Name Was Janese Talton-Jackson and She Was Killed Because She Said No

This article appeared recently (yesterday) regarding a Black woman refusing a blaGunck male “Christians” sexual advancement and harassment.  Her only crime, she said “no” to a black male STRANGER who would have only end up raping her.  In America, especially the Mid-Atlantic region and certain parts of the South, black male “Christian” strangers are notorious for harassing every and any type of woman: pretty, educated, poised, ghetto, religious, atheist, Jew, Sunni Muslim, Nun, doesn’t matter if you are covered for religious reasons, indicate that you have no interest in being sexually harassed and accosted by a black man, they will bother you EVERYDAY.  This is especially true in the State of Maryland, Washington, D.C. and Virginia and states with a enclave of urban areas.  This goes beyond sexual harassment, she was murdered for having some class.  Like I said before the majority of black American “Christian” men believe Black women and women of color are property–especially women who are total strangers.Here is the article:

Her Name Was Janese Talton-Jackson and She Was Killed Because She Said No http://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2016/01/her_name_was_janese_talton_jackson_and_she_was_killed_because_she_said_no.html

I did not know Janese Talton-Jackson on a personal level. There’s a chance I might have seen her before. And a lesser chance I might have spoken to her. But if I did either, I don’t remember.

But after news of her death began to circulate on Facebook on Friday afternoon, and more and more people spoke of her, I learned that there weren’t many degrees of separation between us. Practically none, actually.

She left behind three children. Twin girls and a 1-year-old son. The father of her daughters is the son of my mom’s best friend, Ms. Debbie. She also lived in a house owned by Ms. Debbie—a house right next door to my dad’s house. They’re separated by two driveways and a line of hedges. My dad was devastated by the news. And if that’s not enough of a connection already, Janese’s brother happens to be Pennsylvania state Rep. Ed Gainey, a man I’ve known for 25 years.

I first became acquainted with Ed through basketball. When my dad would take the 9-year-old me to the courts behind Peabody High School to work on my game, Ed was one of the older teens and early-20-somethings who’d often be there, too. Some days, after I was done drilling, my dad would play with them and I’d watch them play. Then, as I got older and better, I’d play with them too. Today Ed is a popular politician and a friend. And now, as of early Friday morning, brother to a murdered sister: a woman shot and killed in the street by a man because she said no.

According to the police report, Janese was at Cliff’s Bar, located in Pittsburgh’s Homewood neighborhood. As the bar neared closing, she was approached by Charles Anthony McKinney, who apparently was interested in her. The interest wasn’t reciprocated, and she left. McKinney allegedly followed her outside, was rebuffed again and then shot her in the chest. She was declared dead at the scene. She was 29.

As I write this, my 2-month-old daughter is 10 feet away in one of her bassinets, fussing. I’ve had to pause from writing twice in the last half hour to check on her. To see if she’s making noise because she’s hungry or cold or hot or wet. But, as I suspected, it’s none of the above. She just wants to be played with, and she’s fussing because she’s bored. So I oblige, stopping every 15 minutes or so to pick her up and make faces at her.

While doing this a moment ago, I noticed that she takes up much more space in her bassinet than she did even a month ago. She will, eventually, outgrow it completely. And then she will learn to walk. And then, years from now, she will leave the house on her own. She will have friends. She will learn to drive. She will go out. And there will be men she is not interested in who will be interested in her. Some might catcall from cars and corners. Some might grab her arm or her waist at the bar. Some might buy her a drink. Some might approach her on the street.

 

Some of these advances will be ignored or unacknowledged. Some met with kind but deliberate body language to convey her lack of interest. And some will even be met with actual words—her actually saying some form of “I’m not interested” out of her actual mouth.

 

But while she can control how she responds to the approach and how she communicates her lack of interest, she cannot control the response to her response. She will have no idea if the guy she says no to will cuss her out. Or spit in her face. (Which happened to my wife before.) Or follow her five blocks to her apartment. (Which has happened to a friend before.) Or follow her outside the bar, ask again, get rejected again and kill her. Which happened to Janese Talton-Jackson.

 

That the world is a specifically dangerous one for women and girls isn’t some grand epiphany I just recently had in having a daughter. I’ve read (and written) enough about it, and I’ve seen enough news about it. I’ve also heard enough first- and second- and third-person stories from friends, girlfriends, cousins and homegirls who have either had this type of violence happen to them or know someone who did. I’ve even watched comedy skits about it.

In one of his HBO specials, Louis C.K. jokes that a woman agreeing to go on a date with a man is literally insane. Because, he continues, we (men) are the No. 1 threat to women’s lives. (Men’s biggest threat? Heart disease.) But the continued existence of our species depends on men approaching women, and women eventually saying, “Yes, I will agree to meet you somewhere of your choosing while alone and at night. Even though, statistically, you’re my No. 1 threat.” Which, he also jokes, is like a man having to date nothing but half-bears/half-lions and hoping that nothing bad happens.

But having a daughter (and a wife) introduces another element to my relationship to this danger. Not empathy—that already existed—but fear. Of course, not every boy and man interested in my daughter will express this interest or respond to her disinterest aggressively, disrespectfully or violently. The vast majority will not. But there is no way of removing those who will from her interactions, no way of avoiding them completely, and that scares the f–k out of me. As I’m sure it scares the f–k out of my wife. And as I’m sure it scares the f–k out of the women who also happened to be at Cliff’s Bar that night.

Janese Talton-Jackson is dead because a man was interested in her. And then killed her when that interest wasn’t reciprocated. But she could have been any woman he happened to be interested in that night. The only thing separating her from the women who made it home alive Friday is chance. Sheer luck.

And this, again, is f–king scary. Not just because of how frequently this happens, but also because I know there will be people—men and women—who will hear about this murder and will immediately think, “Well, she must have said something disrespectful” or “She didn’t have to embarrass him by saying no. Just give him a fake number” or “How was she dressed?” or “What was she even doing out that late in Homewood?” As if this—men responding to disinterest with violence—weren’t epidemic. As if any of this were her fault. And as if “What could she have done to prevent this?” matters at all, and “What can and should men do to stop men from doing this?”—which, ultimately, is the only relevant question here—doesn’t.

I did not know this young woman. But I know several people well who knew her well. None of that really matters, though. Who she knew, who knew her; how she could have been my sister, my daughter, my friend, my wife—those are red herrings. What matters is that she existed. She was alive. She was somebody. And now she’s gone, because she said no.

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BLACK MAN LEAVE US ALONE

He should have been also charged with a hate crime as his wreckless disregard for human life was aimed at a woman (gender).  Unfortunately, this will not be the last time a Black woman dies because she chose to preserve her dignity over being street/sexually harassed by a black male stranger-predator.